“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Is counseling a waste of time?

amoka

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Anybody else feel counseling is a waste of time. I am not quite sure why I need to go but these days I have not been my best self. It is free for me and I can go as many times as I would. Would you take advantage of the fact that the sh!t is free or is a complete waste of time.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I went to marriage counseling,but it didn't help-my wife wasn't qwilling to change. If the person isn't willing to change,counseling wont help
 

amoka

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sodbuster said:
I went to marriage counseling,but it didn't help-my wife wasn't qwilling to change. If the person isn't willing to change,counseling wont help
This is just for personal help. No other party is involved.
 

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It can be very beneficial or very much a waste of time. Depends on you, and your therapist. Probably doesn't hurt to give it a good faith shot if you really want something to change. Like somebody else said though, your therapist can't make you do anything, you have to want it yourself. Think of them more like an athletic coach and less like a doctor.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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guywhoneedshelp

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amoka said:
Anybody else feel counseling is a waste of time. I am not quite sure why I need to go but these days I have not been my best self. It is free for me and I can go as many times as I would. Would you take advantage of the fact that the sh!t is free or is a complete waste of time.
I think the therapy aspect of it is a complete load. However, it does feel good to get stuff of my chest.

Although I have been to a therapist to get things off my chest, I often held back certain things and have been more expressive to friends, and girls I'm close to. A lot of stuff in my life, such as family issues, bother me and I often like to talk about them. I find that when I get close to a girl I begin to feel great because I get this stuff off my chest as we get to know each other.

Counseling can be good but so can be just talking to a friend.
 

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I have found that one on one couseling can be very helpful in increasing self-awareness, developing an improvement plan, and implicating it. If you walk in thinking it's going to be a waste of time you won't get the full benefit of it. :)
 

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The effectiveness of seeing a shrink or a counselor mostly depends on you, and how willing you are to confess personal things to the...Doctor... and take their advice, and try to change yourself.

If you go in there completely closed off and unwilling to tell them anything personal...It's going to be a waste of time. Same as if you go in there and ignore everything they say.

But if you go in with an open mind and ready to confess some stuff, it usually works rather well...

Ofcourse I imagine the doctor could maybe suck, but I haven't heard of that scenario. Lol.
 

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Great I just made the appointment for tomorrow and was given a choice of being counseled by a male or a female. I selected a male because if he is not good, I can fire him and select a female counselor. The funny thing is that I have no clue what to discuss with them. We'll see how things go.
 

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I think that counseling has something for everyone, but only if the "patient" is willing to listen and take the time. There are lots of normal, successful people that see a professional just to keep their heads clear. The best thing about seeing a pro is that there doesn't have to be any secrets between you and them, barring if you've done something highly illegal or whatever.

Few people have the luxury of knowing someone that they can be truly honest with. That's where a pro can be handy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My first "session" was just over and I feel pretty better about things. I was not expecting much from it but it is unbelievable how good I felt after spending an hour talking to someone about nothing. After the initial screening, he said I am wayyyy normal than many people that he has seen. Heck, I have nothing. But I frankly enjoy talking to him about sh!ts in my private life and since it is FREE, I scheduled another appoint for next week... just an hour a session. I don't know if I should change him to a female counselor yet... maybe few more sessions.
 
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