She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
alright, thats what i was looking for. I guess I projected the right confident attitude all before this sosuave brainwashing it was just that I had the tendency to go AFC along the lines..GHardy said:Espi is right. There is a big difference between arrogance and confidence. Arrogance will turn a woman off. Arrogance signals to a woman a guy who is in love with himself and is completely self-centered. Women may not want a pushover, but they also don't want an arrogant bastard.
Think of it this way: when you approach a woman you like, you want to project the attitude that you are an attractive and successful guy and you deserve the best in a woman--you want a woman who is as attractive and successful as yourself. Then make her feel like that woman. She will be much more responsive if you build both you and her up as great people, than she will if you just project an "I'm so great," attitude or a "you're so great" attitude.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
deAngelo points out that ****y is NOT Arrogance. Too much ****y will come off as arrogance in a negative way. Too much funny and you fall in the wussy friends zone and lowers your status.Rebound Material said:I was thinking about this for quite a while. I mean, before I discovered this site, I kept myself humble but not a total pushover when I first met chicks and it worked out just fine(I eventually AFC'd late in the game which fcuked me over). Does looks come into play with the need to be arrogant(C and F)?. Im not a bad looking guy. I try to bust the C and F nowadays and I just come off a self-centered a-hole...