You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
alright, thats what i was looking for. I guess I projected the right confident attitude all before this sosuave brainwashing it was just that I had the tendency to go AFC along the lines..GHardy said:Espi is right. There is a big difference between arrogance and confidence. Arrogance will turn a woman off. Arrogance signals to a woman a guy who is in love with himself and is completely self-centered. Women may not want a pushover, but they also don't want an arrogant bastard.
Think of it this way: when you approach a woman you like, you want to project the attitude that you are an attractive and successful guy and you deserve the best in a woman--you want a woman who is as attractive and successful as yourself. Then make her feel like that woman. She will be much more responsive if you build both you and her up as great people, than she will if you just project an "I'm so great," attitude or a "you're so great" attitude.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
deAngelo points out that ****y is NOT Arrogance. Too much ****y will come off as arrogance in a negative way. Too much funny and you fall in the wussy friends zone and lowers your status.Rebound Material said:I was thinking about this for quite a while. I mean, before I discovered this site, I kept myself humble but not a total pushover when I first met chicks and it worked out just fine(I eventually AFC'd late in the game which fcuked me over). Does looks come into play with the need to be arrogant(C and F)?. Im not a bad looking guy. I try to bust the C and F nowadays and I just come off a self-centered a-hole...