"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is anybody else here pissed off at women right now?

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OK I AM SO SICK OF WOMEN RIGHT NOW.

I AM SICK OF THE FACT THAT I HAVEN"T MET A WOMAN THAT IS WORTH MY FRICKING TIME.

I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT NOW. I AM LOSING FAITH IN THESE *****ES.

I HAVE SPENT MY WHOLE LIFE BUILDING MY CAREER AND MYSELF UP. I AM INTERESTING AND FUN TO BE WITH.

I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM MEETING GIRLS NOW, BUT I DO HAVE PROBLEMS FINDING ONE THAT IS WORTH MY FRICKING TIME AND EFFORT.

I VOW TO NEVER AGAIN TAKE **** FROM ANY WOMAN THAT IS DISRESPECTING ME. IT WILL FEEL GOOD TO REACH DOWN AND GRAB MY BALLS AND BE THE MAN I KNOW I AM.

PLEASE TAKE THIS PLEDGE WITH ME MY FRIENDS:

I _STATE YOUR NAME_____________ WILL NO LONGER TAKE ANY **** FROM TODAY'S WOMEN. THEY WANT AND NEED TO BE PUT INTO THEIR PLACE.

I WILL NEVER EVER BE A WUSSBAG AGAIN. THAT IS MY VOW ON NOVEMBER 18, 2004 AND EVERY DAY FORWARD.

I HAVE WORKED TOO HARD TO TAKE **** FROM A TRASHY BROAD EVER AGAIN.

I WILL FEEL SO GOOD CALLING HER TOMORROW AND DUMPING HER SORRY ASS.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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yea.. somewhat..
but man.. u get lays n all.. u can just use them as toys for u..
not like here. not even gettin lays yet.
just trying to figure this game out..

_yic17
 

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Goddamn it Yick you are only 19, I'm 31.

I could get laid pretty often nowadays if I go out and put forth the effort.

I just want a girl I can tolerate.
 

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**** I'm IRATE right now.
 

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I'm guessing you're looking for a LTR with someone decent. There's tons of crap out there for women, bimbos, Attention wh0res, single mothers, drunks, druggies, divorcees, low self esteem, the list goes on and on.

I know the game gets boring, but use it to pass the time until you find the ideal woman to start a LTR with.

Until you come across her, just keep your game up so you'll be able to get her when she comes along.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thanks Desdinova that does make me feel better. Maybe using a few *****es like this would make me feel better, but that's not really my style.

You are right though I do have to keep my game up and not lose my cool.

For everyone else, doesn't this song pretty much hit home too much with these hoes?


EAMON LYRICS

**** It (I Don't Want You Back)


Whoa oh oh
Ooh hooh
No No No

[Verse 1:]
See, I dont know why I liked you so much
I gave you all, of my trust
I told you, I loved you, now thats all down the drain
Ya put me through pain, I wanna let u know how I feel

[Chorus:]
**** what I said it dont mean **** now
**** the presents might as well throw em out
**** all those kisses, they didn't mean jack
**** you, you hoe, I dont want you back

**** what I said it dont mean **** now
**** the presents might as well throw em out
**** all those kisses they didn't mean jack
**** you, you hoe, I dont want you back

[Verse 2:]
You thought, you could
Keep this **** from me, yeah
Ya burnt *****, I heard the story
Ya played me, ya even gave him head
Now ya askin for me back
Ya just another act, look elsewhere
Cuz ya done with me

**** what I said it dont mean **** now
**** the presents might as well throw em out
**** all those kisses they didn't mean jack
**** you, you hoe, I dont want you back

**** what I said it dont mean **** now
**** the presents might as well throw em out
**** all those kisses they didn't mean jack
**** you, you hoe, I dont want you back

Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah

Ya questioned, did I care
You could ask anyone, I even said
Ya were my great one
Now its, over, but I do admit I'm sad.
It hurts real bad, I cant sweat that, cuz I loved a hoe

**** what I said it dont mean **** now
**** the presents might as well throw em out
**** all those kisses they didn't mean jack
**** you, you hoe, I dont want you back

Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
[Until the end]
 

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I am with you Ricky, I am sooooo pissed at the women I know right now, I don't know why I ever bother with them!

So I say go ahead girls, treat me like sh!t, eye me from across the room, flirt with me, then play hard to get and avoid me and pretend you don't know who I am, tell me to call you then don't return my calls, give me lame-a$$ excuses like I'm too fvcking stupid to see you for what you are, get pissed at me because I've given up on you and your childish head games and drama.

FOR EVEN THOUGH I ONCE GAVE A SH!T, I GIVE A SH!T NO LONGER, AND SHALL I NEVER GIVE A SH!T AGAIN !!
 

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Can we get a SAM KINISON yell "OH OHHHHHHHHHH"

Sometimes I think his version of Wild Thing is the most realistic song about women that was ever written.
 

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I am so tempted to tell this ***** off so bad. She's my friends wife's sister though and I don't want my friend to get hell from his wife since he's a quality drinking buddy.

I probably should do it anyways though!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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isn't it just a matter of sorting through the sh!t?

you sort through them until you find someone worthy of your time
continue ur DJing and meeting new girls
perhaps you should try looking in different places. what qualities would u want in ur woman? and go to a place u'd expect these girls to hang out

also be careful: if u want ur woman to faithful and nice and all that, she may not appreciate the fact that u have slept with so many women

i dunno, just use ur masculine logic to figure out where to find em and go get em ;)
 

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Originally posted by Ricky
OK I AM SO SICK OF WOMEN RIGHT NOW.

I AM SICK OF THE FACT THAT I HAVEN"T MET A WOMAN THAT IS WORTH MY FRICKING TIME.

I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT NOW. I AM LOSING FAITH IN THESE *****ES.

I HAVE SPENT MY WHOLE LIFE BUILDING MY CAREER AND MYSELF UP. I AM INTERESTING AND FUN TO BE WITH.

I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM MEETING GIRLS NOW, BUT I DO HAVE PROBLEMS FINDING ONE THAT IS WORTH MY FRICKING TIME AND EFFORT.

I VOW TO NEVER AGAIN TAKE **** FROM ANY WOMAN THAT IS DISRESPECTING ME. IT WILL FEEL GOOD TO REACH DOWN AND GRAB MY BALLS AND BE THE MAN I KNOW I AM.

PLEASE TAKE THIS PLEDGE WITH ME MY FRIENDS:

I _STATE YOUR NAME_____________ WILL NO LONGER TAKE ANY **** FROM TODAY'S WOMEN. THEY WANT AND NEED TO BE PUT INTO THEIR PLACE.

I WILL NEVER EVER BE A WUSSBAG AGAIN. THAT IS MY VOW ON NOVEMBER 18, 2004 AND EVERY DAY FORWARD.

I HAVE WORKED TOO HARD TO TAKE **** FROM A TRASHY BROAD EVER AGAIN.

I WILL FEEL SO GOOD CALLING HER TOMORROW AND DUMPING HER SORRY ASS.
Bitter, bitter, bitter. :p

MF is right. (MF...LOL :D ) Ahem, but anyway, MF is right...you're taking it way too seriously. The trick to not taking sh!t from women is to not be so concerned with having a woman in your life. Your life should be complete WITHOUT other people, especially women.

You feel like you're being cheated by the dumb hoes who play games with you...but you wouldn't feel so cheated and angry and like "life isn't fair" if you didn't weight the success of your life so heavily on your romantic success. Nor would you be willing to take sh!t you don't like from a girl if you didn't want to keep the girl around so bad to validate your existence.

I'll admit, that's a hard mentality to adjust to. I was with this girl last week...I'm already starting to feel myself "slipping" into that mindset, where I start to be concerned about my "success" or "failure" with her. I feel bad if I don't call her when she wants me to, I start worrying about whether she's getting lonely or needs some lovin'...whether she feels that I'm not living up to my obligation as the male partner.

I have to keep kicking myself and telling myself that I have only the obligation I make for myself and that this woman is not so necessary for my own validation that if she leaves my life will suffer. Eventually I'll find one who enjoys the things I do and the way I behave, and SHE'LL be the one I keep around.

Actually I already found one, I think, but she's 10 years older and lives thousands of miles away. Go fig. :eek:
 

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ricky ....
calm down just a second and breathe.

you know very well how dating goes...

if you really like one person, they dont like you.

if they get on your freggin nerves , they love you.

it is very rare... like finding a needle in a haystack ... to find one person that you can stand and you actually like and they feel the same way back.

so until you find someone that doesnt try to play the little games and gets on your freggin nerves.... calm down and remember that you are a great guy and you will find a great chick one day..

and stop taking home all the chicks from the bar... hehe jk
 

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I agree with a lot of what's been said...just relax a bit!!

You really need to stop looking at women as some kind of mountain you have to conquer. Hang out with them, talk to them and enjoy their company, but ALWAYS be willing and happy to walk away with nothing, except maybe a new friend. Get to know women on a platonic level first and then decide if they're the sort of woman you could date.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ricky,

Duuuuude, you need a boy's night out where you and your buddies figuratively give all women the finger for the night and you guys just chill and goof off.

If you're so wound up about this current dilemma of yours...take a break.

Seriously, stop seeing women for awhile. Take a month or 2 or 3 off.

I was in a situation where I was meeting one social worker type after another. Don't ask me why because it just happened that way. In deference to any social worker types that the sosuavers may know, these girls were all crazy.

I thought it was me. I decided to take a break and so I did. I was able to get a balanced perspective again and things were better once I returned to the front lines.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 
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I always thought that by 31 people knew where the caps lock button is.

Grow up.
 

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Ricky,

If she did something worth calling her on, do it. Let her confront her behavior. If her sister (your buddy's wife) knows anything about her, she'll come to expect this. Just do it in a manner becoming of a gentleman, and not an *******. They'd find a way to turn the blame on you, validating her inappropriate behavior.

Guys, everyone has a right to be upset SOMETIMES. That's just the testosterone talking. I'd say lighten up and realize we all get upset sometimes.

Personally, I don't worry about losing friends. If it's that tenuous, I drop them anyway. And I dislike emotional debt, so I won't ever apologize for something I do/did because I'm "afraid" of losing someone. I'd rather live in reality than walk around on egg shells with a fake set of some non-existant fantasy glossed over my eyes.

Just my 2 cents.



A-Unit
 

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I felt the same way not very long ago. but I've come to a conclusion and realized the error in my ways.

don't talk this way. WOMEN TALK THIS WAY. "I hate men" .. etc..

so....

DON'T BE A *****. Most of you are all starting to sound like one.
so shut the fu-ck up. ... and then shut the fu-ck up again!

You just have to get off your fat ass and figure out how to actually find the type of girl you want. If it means never dating another americanized hoe again then so be it. If it means going to another country to find her then do just that. don't **** around and waste your time with useless women. Stop being a fu-cken whiner. there are billions of women in the world so it is just a numbers game.

You really only have yourself to blame and not women. Most women are fu-cked up and you have to accept that. There are only a very very small % that are even worth a LTR (at least in north america).

so suck it up and grow up and stop fu-cken acting like a complaining *****.


it is a good thing that you are now realizing this. It is a step in the right direction
 

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so suck it up and grow up and stop fu-cken acting like a complaining *****.
00Kevin,

LOL. We can always count on stern reality checks from you.

Agreed. Moving ahead is always the way to go. Thanks for the reminder.

Cheers,
Mav
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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