"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is AlexDP my Ex-gf?

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Wow, this is pretty scary.

As many of you know, AlexDP is pretty much my stalker here on SS.

But did you ever wonder why this member is so passionately against me in particular? Could it be that it is my ex-girlfriend?

If you don't believe me, consider that AlexDP has not posted anything except in reply to my posts for weeks if not longer!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1704777
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Link broken...
 

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lol it's possible.
 

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When I saw the name "AlexDP" I was expecting something related to porn.

Disappointed. :(
 

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bigneil said:
Wow, this is pretty scary.

As many of you know, AlexDP is pretty much my stalker here on SS.

But did you ever wonder why this member is so passionately against me in particular? Could it be that it is my ex-girlfriend?

If you don't believe me, consider that AlexDP has not posted anything except in reply to my posts for weeks if not longer!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1704777
Nah, maybe he just likes you. if you know what i mean lol
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You might want to check this out, bigneil:

http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/smear-campaigns-part-1#axzz1sI6D9W6E

One of the most fundamental characteristics of personality disordered people is that they often resort to smear campaigns. I have seen you do it several times. Not just with me either. Personality disordered people are also attracted to other PD's. Which is why you tend to go for strippers and the like. You yearn for their toxic love. You don't acknowledge this, because you are a narcissist and you have got an image to protect. I know it is impossible to ever get through to you, because you are that damaged and quite frankly you are also just plain stupid.

You're a textbook narcissist, mate.

P.S.: How's your mom doing?
 

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Bigneil,

I think that you deserved your problem shown to the world for trying to humiliate Alex; what goes around comes around........

I must say that in many instances of your dialogue you bay Alex into a fight. I think you perhaps ought to quit it, before you reveal more traits of your disorder..............
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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AlexDP said:
P.S.: How's your mom doing?
hard to take much you say seriously after that lol
 

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cablecow15 said:
hard to take much you say seriously after that lol
That's because you are reading it the wrong way. Personality disorders usually stem from attachment issues. Often with the mom :).
 

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"Knowing that the moralists, the crabbed repressed types who croak about the evils of the seducer, secretly envy their power, they do not concern themselves with other people's opinions. They do not deal in moral judgements - nothing could be less seductive." - Robert Greene
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Looks like BigNeil has himself a little hater in the midst. You know your doing something right when you actually have earned yourself a hater. Gratz!

Haters gonn hate!
 

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AlexDP said:
That's because you are reading it the wrong way. Personality disorders usually stem from attachment issues. Often with the mom :).
Dear AlexDP,
I laughed out loud when I read "By the way: how's your mom?". It made me remember my old times in kindergarten, about 3 years ago. Too bad, it seems I misinterpreted that. Your fancy two-bit explination confused my brain like never before.

So **** you.

-Groovy
 

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fvck you alex.. Just because.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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