"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is AdultFriendFinder an effective tool?

Sabu

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Has anyone had any experience with it? Or, is the whole thing a farce?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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well, I actually have...I don't know about it actually, there's so few girls in sweden on AFF that its hard to tell, but it's defiitely not better that any of the free adult dating services in sweden, but then again, maybe there arent so many free Adult dating services in the rest of the world that other people have a choice.
One thing is certaing thou, like any other adult dating service on the internet, it takes patience, and extreme amounts of it, for 3 months I've only gotten a few responses...
 

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Yes, I've met people off AFF, sort of. They post areas they are going to for swinger clubs. Incidently, I found out where the swinger clubs where this way. As far as getting a lone woman to meet you, I don'tr have any experience with that. I will say all of the women I met from AFF were surprisingly attractive. Slender, attractive faces. Yes, at least most of the ones in the swinger groups are for real.
 

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friendfinder is very discrete, myspace can be as well, but the myspace generation is back to it's attention craving ways. Friendfinder the 1st generation dating site is gered towards singles meeting.

Great site, it's not judged on the quality of your homepage, but on the quality of your writing...

thing that pisses me off is you have to pay for it:p
All I use it for is to scan through pictures, I check who I know by face and tease them about it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There are bona-fide freaks on the site

Yes there are. Something like 3-5% of women are sex addicts. Single males have the hardest time on AFF; it's easiest to meet a woman with a husband who likes to watch. Sometimes that works out. *But* when you deal with freaks, you have to take the good with the bad. I have heard of guys thinking that they are dealing with a horny single woman, but later finding out that she is just bait to get a boyfriend for her boyfriend.:eek:
 

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ethnomethodologist said:
Friendfinder the 1st generation dating site is gered towards singles meeting.

Great site, it's not judged on the quality of your homepage, but on the quality of your writing...

thing that pisses me off is you have to pay for it:p
While it does suck that you have to pay for it, the charge serves as a filter to keep jokers off the site, and also to keep things a little more discrete.
 

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free account, see the picture, call em up in town... I'm a lucky bastard for that. I get to cheat at this seduction game;)

White friends have to go through the usual process though, they even have to pay to send each message?
 

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Now, that I think about it, I'm guessing most of these "sex addicts" have some sort of STD/VD, too.

But did you know AdultFriendFinder is the #22 site in the WORLD?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ethnomethodologist

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Fraud?

I know it is in the advertising... why are there ads that are blatantly false on the internet, on so called secure websites?
 
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