"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is a "moment" generally mutual?

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Imagine you're talking with a member of the opposite sex you're attracted to.

So you're talking to each other, or you're busy doing something else, and then suddenly you look at each other without saying a word. You keep looking at each other and have this kind of "moment" - well at least that's what it feels for you, and maybe them (?).

When does this happen?

Is it usually mutual?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Imagine you're talking with a member of the opposite sex you're attracted to.

So you're talking to each other, or you're busy doing something else, and then suddenly you look at each other without saying a word. You keep looking at each other and have this kind of "moment" - well at least that's what it feels for you, and maybe them (?).

When does this happen?

Is it usually mutual?
It happens at random if she's attracted to you. It's generally mutual.
 

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Happens all the time with my girlfriend. It's a look that says a lot without actually saying anything. It's mutual or they wouldn't be staring back like that.
 

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Mutual as far as it exists in that moment. But 48 hours later, when she's had 100's of texts from orbiters and 100's of Tinder matches and you haven't met a girl since? That moment assumes far greater significance for you than it does her. So you're both attracted but not necessarily equally invested.
 

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Mutual as far as it exists in that moment. But 48 hours later, when she's had 100's of texts from orbiters and 100's of Tinder matches and you haven't met a girl since? That moment assumes far greater significance for you than it does her. So you're both attracted but not necessarily equally invested.
Very true here, definitely should capitalize one those moments.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I had a girl a while back that I had some great sechs with on a 2nd date. A few days after she tells me she was really attracted to me, my peenus was the biggest she ever had, and the sechs was top notch.......but she just didn't feel that spark meaning I guess the feeling wasn't mutual for her! Some of these girls are looking for a rare species of "butterflies" during these moments. quite humorous to me.
 
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