"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is a "moment" generally mutual?

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Imagine you're talking with a member of the opposite sex you're attracted to.

So you're talking to each other, or you're busy doing something else, and then suddenly you look at each other without saying a word. You keep looking at each other and have this kind of "moment" - well at least that's what it feels for you, and maybe them (?).

When does this happen?

Is it usually mutual?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Imagine you're talking with a member of the opposite sex you're attracted to.

So you're talking to each other, or you're busy doing something else, and then suddenly you look at each other without saying a word. You keep looking at each other and have this kind of "moment" - well at least that's what it feels for you, and maybe them (?).

When does this happen?

Is it usually mutual?
It happens at random if she's attracted to you. It's generally mutual.
 

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Happens all the time with my girlfriend. It's a look that says a lot without actually saying anything. It's mutual or they wouldn't be staring back like that.
 

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Mutual as far as it exists in that moment. But 48 hours later, when she's had 100's of texts from orbiters and 100's of Tinder matches and you haven't met a girl since? That moment assumes far greater significance for you than it does her. So you're both attracted but not necessarily equally invested.
 

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Mutual as far as it exists in that moment. But 48 hours later, when she's had 100's of texts from orbiters and 100's of Tinder matches and you haven't met a girl since? That moment assumes far greater significance for you than it does her. So you're both attracted but not necessarily equally invested.
Very true here, definitely should capitalize one those moments.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I had a girl a while back that I had some great sechs with on a 2nd date. A few days after she tells me she was really attracted to me, my peenus was the biggest she ever had, and the sechs was top notch.......but she just didn't feel that spark meaning I guess the feeling wasn't mutual for her! Some of these girls are looking for a rare species of "butterflies" during these moments. quite humorous to me.
 
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