She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ok I don't want to sound gross or give your nightmares or anything, but just so you can understand...Juan_Man said:Just curious as to what your thoughts are?
I think that if the guy is at least 15, NEVER!
Le Parisien said:Ok I don't want to sound gross or give your nightmares or anything, but just so you can understand...
Just imagine yourself being drugged up and tied up by some 50 year old fugly granny. And she plays with a beer bottle in your a** and jerks you off even though you are not liking it at all.
Would you consider it rape?:crackup:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That phrase is HILARIOUS...but true.DJDamage said:So basically you can be drunk and pass out and still have an erection and some woman can bounce on your d1ck, but since you are the man and you are the penetrater your argument of being raped is usually tossed out the window in court. The arugment would probably be that its your fault "for not being responsible enough". Of coarse this argument would be valid if the reverse was female being raped by a male because she is usually the weaker one and she is the one being penetrated.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You seem to be pretty proud of what happened. A woman who's been raped would NEVER admit it in a Discussion Forum even when asked. This is the difference. Your body and your mind are not negatively affected at all by these experiences, are they? This is not something that will hurt for the rest of your life, it's something you will laugh about with your friends.The Truth said:I've had encounters with those kind of hen night slags who get in a group, get drunk and think they can go round groping men and making sleazy suggestions. I had a woman thrust a dildo in my mouth at club one night and I've been groped many times by these types. If the situation was reversed then I'd probably be facing a sentence for sexual assault now!
I dont know why you think I am proud. It was humiliating! So while I wasn't physically hurt, I felt degraded and undermined so my mind was affected. My point was that nobody, male nor female has the right to impose themselves on you this way.Adone said:You seem to be pretty proud of what happened. A woman who's been raped would NEVER admit it in a Discussion Forum even when asked. This is the difference. Your body and your mind are not negatively affected at all by these experiences, are they?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Last time I checked, you don't need the victim to have actually come to make a rape case, valid for both male and female victims.Juan_Man said:Anyone who has engaged in sexual activity would know how difficult it is to ejaculate if you don't find any pleasure in the encounter. If you release, are you really a victim?
Le Parisien said:Last time I checked, you don't need the victim to have actually come to make a rape case, valid for both male and female victims.
And most likely, when you get raped, you don't enjoy it and don't come, whether you are a guy or a girl.:nono:
I think it's quite clear on this topic: rape involves forceful coercion. Whether the victim has an orgasm, male or female, is totally irrelevent.Adone said:I think that's what he's saying, man. He's asking when you are raped against your will and for some reason you come (for example, if she's giving you a blow job and she's extremely good at it), could a court consider that "rape"?
Haha, not really. I was just thinking about the whole thing and wondered what others thought. But I must admit, these recent stories about hot female teachers-rapists makes me wish I can go back to junior high.Le Parisien said:I think it's quite clear on this topic: rape involves forceful coercion. Whether the victim has an orgasm, male or female, is totally irrelevent.
I think he genuinely has some rape fantasy or he's naively dreaming about being "raped" by some twenty something hot hot highschool teacher, like the recent Florida hot blond teacher who had sex with a 14-year old...Only it was statutory rape, not "real" rape, the young kid was completely consenting and he was more than enjoying the rides...
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.