Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
OOooooooo, salty......Desdinova said:Here's the way I see it.... At least she's not Wyldfire![]()
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
OOooooooo, salty......Desdinova said:Here's the way I see it.... At least she's not Wyldfire![]()
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DavenJuan said:we share the same IP number?
..im confused?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Even more interesting as he is perhaps the ONLY "m"an I have heard write in a message board the following:Rollo Tomassi said:Interesting since you happen to share the same IP number as her.
A clear indication that he is either gay...or a woman."the last thing they want to do is AGREE with a women. even when her post at the time is insightful, thought provoking, eye opening, or sometimes enjoyably debatable."
Oh man, 'Cisco you killed it!Francisco d'Anconia said:Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints?![]()
thanks for the slap on the azz...but I am niether gay or a women.Latinoman said:Even more interesting as he is perhaps the ONLY "m"an I have heard write in a message board the following:
A clear indication that he is either gay...or a woman.
Whew... I was worried that it was way too far overhead for anyone to catch. Thanks buddy!KarmaSutra said:Oh man, 'Cisco you killed it!
Yikes and gadzookes.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Latinoman said:Really? All you have to do is open TWO windows and sign in using both IDs (one per window). Then type in World two posts. Then copy - paste each posts in their respective Reply box.
And then reply within 60 seconds of each ID.
If it was a perfect match; meaning not just the first two series of 3 numbers, then RT should be your best friend. He should already have a PM in his box thanking him that you can still post, if that were the case.iqqi said:I think that means we are the same person!![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Their IPs and their hosts are different in this thread, so I doubt they're the same person.Really? All you have to do is open TWO windows and sign in using both IDs (one per window).
Geeze...azanon said:I believe you're not DavenJuan. You don't strike me as being cautious enough to even remember to not start sentences with caps when posting as Daven. Also, I doubt you could even fake posts as emotionally absent as Daven's are with me just looking at his for a couple of minutes.
For the record, I've actually changed my mind and decide you really are female. I've seen that (female) "crazy" way too many times to not recognize it when I see it.
So what do you have against iVillage?
Exactly AND unless this is a gay community I don't see what your problem is with a little female company, fellas.DavenJuan said:there are posters who dislike her and other female posters simply because of gender alone, and not substance.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.