Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
OOooooooo, salty......Desdinova said:Here's the way I see it.... At least she's not Wyldfire![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
OOooooooo, salty......Desdinova said:Here's the way I see it.... At least she's not Wyldfire![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DavenJuan said:we share the same IP number?
..im confused?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Even more interesting as he is perhaps the ONLY "m"an I have heard write in a message board the following:Rollo Tomassi said:Interesting since you happen to share the same IP number as her.
A clear indication that he is either gay...or a woman."the last thing they want to do is AGREE with a women. even when her post at the time is insightful, thought provoking, eye opening, or sometimes enjoyably debatable."
Oh man, 'Cisco you killed it!Francisco d'Anconia said:Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints?![]()
thanks for the slap on the azz...but I am niether gay or a women.Latinoman said:Even more interesting as he is perhaps the ONLY "m"an I have heard write in a message board the following:
A clear indication that he is either gay...or a woman.
Whew... I was worried that it was way too far overhead for anyone to catch. Thanks buddy!KarmaSutra said:Oh man, 'Cisco you killed it!
Yikes and gadzookes.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Latinoman said:Really? All you have to do is open TWO windows and sign in using both IDs (one per window). Then type in World two posts. Then copy - paste each posts in their respective Reply box.
And then reply within 60 seconds of each ID.
If it was a perfect match; meaning not just the first two series of 3 numbers, then RT should be your best friend. He should already have a PM in his box thanking him that you can still post, if that were the case.iqqi said:I think that means we are the same person!![]()
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Their IPs and their hosts are different in this thread, so I doubt they're the same person.Really? All you have to do is open TWO windows and sign in using both IDs (one per window).
Geeze...azanon said:I believe you're not DavenJuan. You don't strike me as being cautious enough to even remember to not start sentences with caps when posting as Daven. Also, I doubt you could even fake posts as emotionally absent as Daven's are with me just looking at his for a couple of minutes.
For the record, I've actually changed my mind and decide you really are female. I've seen that (female) "crazy" way too many times to not recognize it when I see it.
So what do you have against iVillage?
Exactly AND unless this is a gay community I don't see what your problem is with a little female company, fellas.DavenJuan said:there are posters who dislike her and other female posters simply because of gender alone, and not substance.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.