You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What did you pay for it and how much is your monthly bill including the internet plan?S.Y.L said:I have an iPhone 3G, girls see me with it and they approach me, and ask "omg is that the new iPhone?", think its awesome, play around on it, then add their number to my contacts.
Theres status with it, its awesome. It is by far the best phone ive ever used too, I jail broke it, and it does everything you could ever think of. 3G is fast too, and Its awesome to have the internet on the go.
I second this. The touch pro is going to be amazing.ready123 said:you guys should check out the HTC Touch Pro. check out this review
cooler looking touch interface than the iPhone (looks like a rolodex), plus a slide out keypad because it's ridiculous trying to text on the iPhone anyway. It's also made by HTC, who designed the G1, the Tilt, AND the Xperia
it's on Sprint right now and it's coming out on ATT next week renamed as the Fuze
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Too bad I can't afford it at the moment - I only have an iPod Touch.S.Y.L said:I have an iPhone 3G, girls see me with it and they approach me, and ask "omg is that the new iPhone?", think its awesome, play around on it, then add their number to my contacts.
Theres status with it, its awesome. It is by far the best phone ive ever used too, I jail broke it, and it does everything you could ever think of. 3G is fast too, and Its awesome to have the internet on the go.
actually it's Mac OS9...there's no way a phone can run mac os XIt's-Me said:The iPhone runs a slimmed down version of Mac OS X too and it's frequently being updated.
I've used dozens (60+) of HTC phones and unfortunately the one thing they all had in common was a mediocre cell radio. If you live and stay in a strictly urban area then you're OK but they don't grab signal as well as the Motorolas and Samsungs.ready123 said:you guys should check out the HTC Touch Pro.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Also there is an actual community of people WRITING apps along with a well established delivery channel, not just some hypothetical ability to do so.backbreaker said:the iphone by a country mile.
I'm a tech by trade, and the iphone is on a different level. it's pretty easy to program different apps for the iphone and actually use them. that alone puts the iphone in a different class to me.
PRMoon said:O just got a Samsung Omnia! It's the best cell phone I've ever owned. Windows mobile 6.2 interfaces with my laptops at work and at home with no issues. Although I miss out on things like identifying and purchasing music ala iphone, I have to say that for business applications, this phone is definitely the crowned prince.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.