You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What did you pay for it and how much is your monthly bill including the internet plan?S.Y.L said:I have an iPhone 3G, girls see me with it and they approach me, and ask "omg is that the new iPhone?", think its awesome, play around on it, then add their number to my contacts.
Theres status with it, its awesome. It is by far the best phone ive ever used too, I jail broke it, and it does everything you could ever think of. 3G is fast too, and Its awesome to have the internet on the go.
I second this. The touch pro is going to be amazing.ready123 said:you guys should check out the HTC Touch Pro. check out this review
cooler looking touch interface than the iPhone (looks like a rolodex), plus a slide out keypad because it's ridiculous trying to text on the iPhone anyway. It's also made by HTC, who designed the G1, the Tilt, AND the Xperia
it's on Sprint right now and it's coming out on ATT next week renamed as the Fuze
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Too bad I can't afford it at the moment - I only have an iPod Touch.S.Y.L said:I have an iPhone 3G, girls see me with it and they approach me, and ask "omg is that the new iPhone?", think its awesome, play around on it, then add their number to my contacts.
Theres status with it, its awesome. It is by far the best phone ive ever used too, I jail broke it, and it does everything you could ever think of. 3G is fast too, and Its awesome to have the internet on the go.
actually it's Mac OS9...there's no way a phone can run mac os XIt's-Me said:The iPhone runs a slimmed down version of Mac OS X too and it's frequently being updated.
I've used dozens (60+) of HTC phones and unfortunately the one thing they all had in common was a mediocre cell radio. If you live and stay in a strictly urban area then you're OK but they don't grab signal as well as the Motorolas and Samsungs.ready123 said:you guys should check out the HTC Touch Pro.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Also there is an actual community of people WRITING apps along with a well established delivery channel, not just some hypothetical ability to do so.backbreaker said:the iphone by a country mile.
I'm a tech by trade, and the iphone is on a different level. it's pretty easy to program different apps for the iphone and actually use them. that alone puts the iphone in a different class to me.
PRMoon said:O just got a Samsung Omnia! It's the best cell phone I've ever owned. Windows mobile 6.2 interfaces with my laptops at work and at home with no issues. Although I miss out on things like identifying and purchasing music ala iphone, I have to say that for business applications, this phone is definitely the crowned prince.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.