I'm acting in a movie soon. After one of my rehearsals, my co-star invited me to her place to "go over lines". Is she trying to make a move on me? I can't tell. It will be just me and her at her place tomorrow night and I want to make a move.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Invite to her place?
- Thread starter Vikman
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Exactly.horaholic said:
Escalate slowly. If she seems receptive, YOU make the move.
Taking control of these situations for yourself does one of two things:
1) It stops you from wondering and asking so many questions, therefore making you more confident, therefore getting you better results.
2) Girls like it when the man is a man and makes a move.
But, be careful. Last thing you want is to be blown out and to then have to work with this girl. So go forward, cautiously but confidently.
Just remember the simple fact of life that a woman will not invite a man into her place to be alone with him/go into a man's place to be alone with him without knowing what consequences might arise from it.
It doesn't matter what the situation is. When a woman invites you to her place to be alone with her that shows that she has a certain level of comfort around you already. It also shows that she is not appalled by the sight of you.
Trust me on this. If you weighed 300 pounds and had 2 missing front teeth you would not be getting invited over to her place to be alone with her.
In this type of situations the main thing is: Kino, Kino, Kino!
Lots of playful kino. The combination of being alone with you with no other distractions and people around, combined with all your playful touching will do wonders.
The key is to start the moment you get to her place. You don't want to start touching her an hour after being in her place. The moment she opens the door you need to touch her.
It doesn't matter what the situation is. When a woman invites you to her place to be alone with her that shows that she has a certain level of comfort around you already. It also shows that she is not appalled by the sight of you.
Trust me on this. If you weighed 300 pounds and had 2 missing front teeth you would not be getting invited over to her place to be alone with her.
In this type of situations the main thing is: Kino, Kino, Kino!
Lots of playful kino. The combination of being alone with you with no other distractions and people around, combined with all your playful touching will do wonders.
The key is to start the moment you get to her place. You don't want to start touching her an hour after being in her place. The moment she opens the door you need to touch her.