Invalidation = indifference

[wifehunter]

I'm at the laundromat, and this chick is walking by me, way too many times. I haven't looked up from my phone once.

Silly girls!

 

[dude99]

I'm at the laundromat, and this chick is walking by me, way too many times. I haven't looked up from my phone once.

Silly girls!

Well played.

 

[IraLeo]

I'm at the laundromat, and this chick is walking by me, way too many times. I haven't looked up from my phone once.

Silly girls!

At a cafe, this one chick does that all the time, i mean "i know you're fine, but i'm the catch babe!" LOL!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Same thing often happens to me as I walk along the street. I clock a chick at distance, she's checking me out. I pretend not to have seen her, staring in to the middle distance, so she purposefully cuts across my path right in front of me to get my attention.

Happens far too often to be coincidence.

 

[wifehunter]

Eye contact = attention

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Extended eye contact/double take (from them) = let's fck.

 

[wifehunter]

Extended eye contact/double take (from them) = let's fck.

All day long!!! Double takes and elevator eyes. Everyone wants my DNA.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

All day long!!! Double takes and elevator eyes. Everyone wants my DNA.

Got one earlier today on my lunch time walk. This chick across the street, looking right over with a cheeky grin. I had shades on so she wouldn't have clocked me looking at her (= no validation). As we draw level, I turn to look at her and grin back. She does the same. Really should have approached. Bit of a Plain Jane though.

 

[Red Legg]

I once fvcked a bar tender who winked at me..my reaction ? I rolled my eyes..

 

[mrgoodstuff]

One of these days, you are going to talk to one of those girls.

Then you'll learn that aloofness only gets you so far. And realize how limited your philosophy is.

I mean nothing harsh. But nobody needs to learn how to ignore women, mate.

Staring at em and getting all up in them without their effort doesn't help you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I should have phrased that better, because ignoring women is an art.

But so is escalating.

I see no art in going your own way.

Going your own way might be something that has to be done for a period of time to reestablish your identity.

On the looking at females. What has worked for me is to address ones that show a definite interest. Such as a double take. I will at least acknowledge those and possibly get a number if I'm single.

What has never worked for me is chasing girls or being all up into ones that weren't already crazy about me. I think Supreme calls it "h0e chasing" and it's a SIN...

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

In most of these cases, the girl doesn't find you attractive at all. She's merely attempting to collect ego points. The only thing you can say about a female trying to non-verbally engage with you is that you are not disqualified (e.g. too hideous or smelly) from ego points.

She's just trying to get you to show interest SO she can blow you off. It's things they do when they are otherwise bored (like doing laundry). It really doesn't mean much.

When you can actively interact with her and generate interest (that's verified, not imagined) then ignoring her is useful.

 

[resilient]

In most of these cases, the girl doesn't find you attractive at all. She's merely attempting to collect ego points.

Like points in a Mario game

Just like we like knocking them off their pedestals, they like the power of rejecting AFCs.

 

[bigneil]

I'm at the laundromat, and this chick is walking by me, way too many times. I haven't looked up from my phone once.

Silly girls!

It's good to ignore her but don't be one of those cell phone drones. Look around. Most people aren't looking up from their phone.

At Starbucks some snooty girl who looks like the standard 27 year old feminist Jewish Italian girl sits at the bar where they deliver the coffee so everyone must stand next to her, and she not only refuses to look up from her phone, but when the Starbuck's staff asks her questions she just shakes her head no and doesn't say a word and doesn't look up and still manages to throw a little "I'm annoyed by anyone interrupting me" vibe. You're not reading War and Peace honey, you're liking pictures of your friend's hamster. Luckily they know me now and usually hand me my Doppio on the far side of where she is.

 

[IraLeo]

In most of these cases, the girl doesn't find you attractive at all. She's merely attempting to collect ego points. The only thing you can say about a female trying to non-verbally engage with you is that you are not disqualified (e.g. too hideous or smelly) from ego points.

She's just trying to get you to show interest SO she can blow you off. It's things they do when they are otherwise bored (like doing laundry). It really doesn't mean much.

When you can actively interact with her and generate interest (that's verified, not imagined) then ignoring her is useful.

^Agreed.

I have encountered numbers of them. They are out there collecting points like it's a pokemon game.

Usually ignoring these girls tend to be fun once you have generate interest, but knowing how to approach them is different. Women these days have an attention span of goldfish. Thus mostly i neg-em, flirt and leave it hanging in the air. Seriously, it works pretty good when you have other plates around.

 

[bigneil]

 

[wifehunter]

Like points in a Mario game

Just like we like knocking them off their pedestals, they like the power of rejecting AFCs.

 

[Plums]

I'm at the laundromat, and this chick is walking by me, way too many times. I haven't looked up from my phone once.

Silly girls!

May be she is the attendant.

 

[wifehunter]

May be she is the attendant.

She white, attendant is mexican. I'm there every other week.

 

[Plums]

She white, attendant is mexican. I'm there every other week.

So you must have had a sneaky peak then....so much for indifference.