wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I'm at the laundromat, and this chick is walking by me, way too many times. I haven't looked up from my phone once.
Silly girls!
Silly girls!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Invalidation = indifference
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well played.
At a cafe, this one chick does that all the time, i mean "i know you're fine, but i'm the catch babe!" LOL!
TheMonkeyKing
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Same thing often happens to me as I walk along the street. I clock a chick at distance, she's checking me out. I pretend not to have seen her, staring in to the middle distance, so she purposefully cuts across my path right in front of me to get my attention.
Happens far too often to be coincidence.
Happens far too often to be coincidence.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Eye contact = attention
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Extended eye contact/double take (from them) = let's fck.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
All day long!!! Double takes and elevator eyes. Everyone wants my DNA.
TheMonkeyKing
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Got one earlier today on my lunch time walk. This chick across the street, looking right over with a cheeky grin. I had shades on so she wouldn't have clocked me looking at her (= no validation). As we draw level, I turn to look at her and grin back. She does the same. Really should have approached. Bit of a Plain Jane though.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Staring at em and getting all up in them without their effort doesn't help you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Going your own way might be something that has to be done for a period of time to reestablish your identity.
On the looking at females. What has worked for me is to address ones that show a definite interest. Such as a double take. I will at least acknowledge those and possibly get a number if I'm single.
What has never worked for me is chasing girls or being all up into ones that weren't already crazy about me. I think Supreme calls it "h0e chasing" and it's a SIN...
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
In most of these cases, the girl doesn't find you attractive at all. She's merely attempting to collect ego points. The only thing you can say about a female trying to non-verbally engage with you is that you are not disqualified (e.g. too hideous or smelly) from ego points.
She's just trying to get you to show interest SO she can blow you off. It's things they do when they are otherwise bored (like doing laundry). It really doesn't mean much.
When you can actively interact with her and generate interest (that's verified, not imagined) then ignoring her is useful.
She's just trying to get you to show interest SO she can blow you off. It's things they do when they are otherwise bored (like doing laundry). It really doesn't mean much.
When you can actively interact with her and generate interest (that's verified, not imagined) then ignoring her is useful.
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Like points in a Mario game
Just like we like knocking them off their pedestals, they like the power of rejecting AFCs.
It's good to ignore her but don't be one of those cell phone drones. Look around. Most people aren't looking up from their phone.
At Starbucks some snooty girl who looks like the standard 27 year old feminist Jewish Italian girl sits at the bar where they deliver the coffee so everyone must stand next to her, and she not only refuses to look up from her phone, but when the Starbuck's staff asks her questions she just shakes her head no and doesn't say a word and doesn't look up and still manages to throw a little "I'm annoyed by anyone interrupting me" vibe. You're not reading War and Peace honey, you're liking pictures of your friend's hamster. Luckily they know me now and usually hand me my Doppio on the far side of where she is.
^Agreed.
I have encountered numbers of them. They are out there collecting points like it's a pokemon game.
Usually ignoring these girls tend to be fun once you have generate interest, but knowing how to approach them is different. Women these days have an attention span of goldfish. Thus mostly i neg-em, flirt and leave it hanging in the air. Seriously, it works pretty good when you have other plates around.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Like points in a Mario game
Just like we like knocking them off their pedestals, they like the power of rejecting AFCs.
May be she is the attendant.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
She white, attendant is mexican. I'm there every other week.
So you must have had a sneaky peak then....so much for indifference.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.