"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Introductions?

gabrielstigmatic

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I don't know if there is a set place for introductions. I feel that I'm a fairly attractive guy but my self esteem is just shot. I haven't even been on a date in almost two years and it's driving me nuts. That last date was terrible too. The girl told me she wasn't interested in me romantically at the end of it. Not to mention the place she told me to park got me a parking ticket. I usually have women tell me things like: "I'm really not looking for a relationship at all right now".

I'm not even looking for "the love of my life" or anything. I just want to have fun while I'm young and maybe that will happen along the way. My goal for the time being is to get over my "fear" of women I'm attracted to. This fear that comes over me when I'm attracted to a woman is the hardest part to get over. It's like an uncontrollable adrenaline rush, the kind you get when you're about to start a race or something competitive. Or the kind when a police officer stops you when you've been speeding or something.

I grew up with a mother who always told me to "just be myself". My father always said that women he liked saw him as a "younger brother" type. So guess how I turned out? None of us can control the situation we grew up in but we can however control the people we become. I really hope that as I read more on this site and get more input that I will get better with the opposite sex.

-Gabe
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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COD

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hmmm well theres tons of generic advice and lots of conflicting advice.......using a site like this one just getting the tips without the research and comprehension often leads to incongruencies.

Its a way of life........
 

gabrielstigmatic

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That's how pretty much all forums on any subject are. If there are several different people giving advice, dialectics are bound to take place. I'm quite willing to do research? And just because I don't "comprehend" the game completely doesn't mean that I won't eventually.

Believe it or not, there are people that have never been given advice at all on approaching women. I am one of those people, so even the "generic advice" will probably help me. I'm also willing to make it my way of life, but I have a lot of inner game issues that need to be solved first.

Going into English Nazi mode, "incongruencies" isn't a word. You could have said "Using a site like this one just getting the tips without any research can lead to incongruent issues having to do with your game."

Lastly, everyone has incongruent elements to their game. Even the guys who are great with women get shot down by cold women, come across women they can't figure out.

I'm not looking for a miracle overnight cure, I'm looking to better myself. I know it may take months, maybe even years, but I'm ready to put the time and effort into it. So if anyone has any suggestions on "research material" on inner game, I would really appreciate it.
 

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Welcome!


Well, you´ve come to the right place. SoSuave will change your life. You have tonnes of info her and the guys here really know about women.


Take care
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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