"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Introductions?

gabrielstigmatic

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I don't know if there is a set place for introductions. I feel that I'm a fairly attractive guy but my self esteem is just shot. I haven't even been on a date in almost two years and it's driving me nuts. That last date was terrible too. The girl told me she wasn't interested in me romantically at the end of it. Not to mention the place she told me to park got me a parking ticket. I usually have women tell me things like: "I'm really not looking for a relationship at all right now".

I'm not even looking for "the love of my life" or anything. I just want to have fun while I'm young and maybe that will happen along the way. My goal for the time being is to get over my "fear" of women I'm attracted to. This fear that comes over me when I'm attracted to a woman is the hardest part to get over. It's like an uncontrollable adrenaline rush, the kind you get when you're about to start a race or something competitive. Or the kind when a police officer stops you when you've been speeding or something.

I grew up with a mother who always told me to "just be myself". My father always said that women he liked saw him as a "younger brother" type. So guess how I turned out? None of us can control the situation we grew up in but we can however control the people we become. I really hope that as I read more on this site and get more input that I will get better with the opposite sex.

-Gabe
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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COD

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hmmm well theres tons of generic advice and lots of conflicting advice.......using a site like this one just getting the tips without the research and comprehension often leads to incongruencies.

Its a way of life........
 

gabrielstigmatic

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That's how pretty much all forums on any subject are. If there are several different people giving advice, dialectics are bound to take place. I'm quite willing to do research? And just because I don't "comprehend" the game completely doesn't mean that I won't eventually.

Believe it or not, there are people that have never been given advice at all on approaching women. I am one of those people, so even the "generic advice" will probably help me. I'm also willing to make it my way of life, but I have a lot of inner game issues that need to be solved first.

Going into English Nazi mode, "incongruencies" isn't a word. You could have said "Using a site like this one just getting the tips without any research can lead to incongruent issues having to do with your game."

Lastly, everyone has incongruent elements to their game. Even the guys who are great with women get shot down by cold women, come across women they can't figure out.

I'm not looking for a miracle overnight cure, I'm looking to better myself. I know it may take months, maybe even years, but I'm ready to put the time and effort into it. So if anyone has any suggestions on "research material" on inner game, I would really appreciate it.
 

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Welcome!


Well, you´ve come to the right place. SoSuave will change your life. You have tonnes of info her and the guys here really know about women.


Take care
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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