"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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gabrielstigmatic

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I don't know if there is a set place for introductions. I feel that I'm a fairly attractive guy but my self esteem is just shot. I haven't even been on a date in almost two years and it's driving me nuts. That last date was terrible too. The girl told me she wasn't interested in me romantically at the end of it. Not to mention the place she told me to park got me a parking ticket. I usually have women tell me things like: "I'm really not looking for a relationship at all right now".

I'm not even looking for "the love of my life" or anything. I just want to have fun while I'm young and maybe that will happen along the way. My goal for the time being is to get over my "fear" of women I'm attracted to. This fear that comes over me when I'm attracted to a woman is the hardest part to get over. It's like an uncontrollable adrenaline rush, the kind you get when you're about to start a race or something competitive. Or the kind when a police officer stops you when you've been speeding or something.

I grew up with a mother who always told me to "just be myself". My father always said that women he liked saw him as a "younger brother" type. So guess how I turned out? None of us can control the situation we grew up in but we can however control the people we become. I really hope that as I read more on this site and get more input that I will get better with the opposite sex.

-Gabe
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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COD

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hmmm well theres tons of generic advice and lots of conflicting advice.......using a site like this one just getting the tips without the research and comprehension often leads to incongruencies.

Its a way of life........
 

gabrielstigmatic

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That's how pretty much all forums on any subject are. If there are several different people giving advice, dialectics are bound to take place. I'm quite willing to do research? And just because I don't "comprehend" the game completely doesn't mean that I won't eventually.

Believe it or not, there are people that have never been given advice at all on approaching women. I am one of those people, so even the "generic advice" will probably help me. I'm also willing to make it my way of life, but I have a lot of inner game issues that need to be solved first.

Going into English Nazi mode, "incongruencies" isn't a word. You could have said "Using a site like this one just getting the tips without any research can lead to incongruent issues having to do with your game."

Lastly, everyone has incongruent elements to their game. Even the guys who are great with women get shot down by cold women, come across women they can't figure out.

I'm not looking for a miracle overnight cure, I'm looking to better myself. I know it may take months, maybe even years, but I'm ready to put the time and effort into it. So if anyone has any suggestions on "research material" on inner game, I would really appreciate it.
 

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Welcome!


Well, you´ve come to the right place. SoSuave will change your life. You have tonnes of info her and the guys here really know about women.


Take care
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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