"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Interracial Dating : How do you deal with a girl's insecurity?

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I'm white, but I've dated 3 black girls, and the 1 thing they had in common was their insecurity about getting looks from people in public.

I never was the first to notice it, but whenever we went out, they'd get all self-conscious and say "we're getting looks," or "people are staring at us" and so on.

I would always try to laugh it off and a play it off in a ****y way. I'd say something like "Yeah, because we're a really hot pair" or if it was a dude, "Yeah, he's jealous of me." Sometimes, if it was a girl, I'd joke and say "Yeah, she wishes she can get in on this action. Hey, wanna invite her to tag along tonight?"

But the looks really seemed to bother them, especially if there were other black people who they knew around. They'd always suggest heading to a new spot or going home early. Going to clubs was also out of the question with these girls.

I guess dating outside the race is looked down upon in the black community around here. I got looks from white people too, but that never really bothered me, but if you're ever dating a girl from another race and she's insecure about getting looks from other people, how do you smoothly deal with that?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SharinganUser

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I am suprised that people actually still care about that.

My advice would be to keep making light of it like you have been, or just ignore it all together. Heck I like when people look at me. I am in a foreign country, it doesn't matter if I am on a date or not, I always got someone looking at me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thedude4242

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most guys that say that about black woman dont that special stuff a black woman would want in a white guy.
 

Bible_Belt

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I like black girls. They smell good. Great asses, too. :up:

There will always be people of all races who are uptight about interracial dating. If you are ever in jail, don't let anyone find out you like black girls or everyone will hate you, black and white.

Dating is overrated anyway. Just stay home and fvck.
 

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You can't. There are self esteem issues you cannot repair. Hopefully it will fade away in time but I doubt it.

I'm all for moving to Canada but that is because I am already here.
 

Tyson420

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katatonia said:
Don't date black women.












(because they're ugly)
Black women tend to aim high when they are looking for dudes, you're probably just a lame and never ****ed a Black chick before.

My sister brought home a white bf, we all cosigned gave our approval. Dude was cool as ****, I was cool with him being with my little sis.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FLGuy

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katatonia said:
Don't date black women.












(because they're ugly)


Not all black girls are ugly.

Though I will be honest and say the ratio of attractive black women vs white/hispanic/asian, is extremely low here in South Florida.
 
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