Doc Freezy
Don Juan
"why do you want me though, Im sure you can have plenty of other girls" - Text msg from a HB7
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Interpret this..
- Thread starter Doc Freezy
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She wants you to qualify her. Get on a date with her first (which I am pretty sure you havent done yet). Qualifying is the process of telling a girl why you like her by telling her what makes you attracted to her THAT IS NOT HER LOOKS!
If you do this too easily and soon she will think you are easy and lose attraction for you, but if you never do it at all she will think you ain't attracted to her! Whatever you have been doing up to now to get a quote like that out of her keep doing it. Seems to me you are doing a good job. Keep playing it c&f.
btw yes it is a test and she is testing to see if you are a man (hard to get) or just another easy chump that is ready to confess his puppy love for her. What do you think will work best? 2 replies you could use
hero: I think you are nice/beautiful/whatever other compliment you can think off to reply to her question
OR
hero: You are going way too fast for me. BTW I gotta go meet up with some friends i'll call you back!
hint: it ain't #1
I mean seriously brother get on a date with this girl first, make her earn your respect.
If you do this too easily and soon she will think you are easy and lose attraction for you, but if you never do it at all she will think you ain't attracted to her! Whatever you have been doing up to now to get a quote like that out of her keep doing it. Seems to me you are doing a good job. Keep playing it c&f.
btw yes it is a test and she is testing to see if you are a man (hard to get) or just another easy chump that is ready to confess his puppy love for her. What do you think will work best? 2 replies you could use
hero: I think you are nice/beautiful/whatever other compliment you can think off to reply to her question
OR
hero: You are going way too fast for me. BTW I gotta go meet up with some friends i'll call you back!
hint: it ain't #1
I mean seriously brother get on a date with this girl first, make her earn your respect.Doc Freezy
Don Juan
Or captain you could not be a douche and provide a constructive theory.
It's more about a desire of understanding than my desire to bag this one girl.
It's more about a desire of understanding than my desire to bag this one girl.
She probably sent it because she has low self-esteem and senses that you are a 'player'. Also could be a sh1t test to see if you say something beta like "oh no I have no eyes for any other ladies you're my #1 girl you're so beautiful wuv u <3"
No problem here, proceed as usual.
No problem here, proceed as usual.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.