"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Interesting..what do you think?

drf408

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I posted about a girl I really liked but bombed with - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155746

Fast forward several days since any communication, (I even deleted her #) I just got a txt from her, I know its due to context..basically shes being all cute and now asking me what I'm doing Friday during the day..which I am actually off. I like the girl, and from past experience lack of action hasnt paid off..is it wrong to start asking her what she had in mind?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There is no such thing as wrong in this circumstance.

If anything, you have the chance to turn a wrong in to a right.

As long as she's the one asking you to do something, it's fine. Just don't make the mistake of getting all wrapped up in her like before.

Go out with her and have fun. Don't be needy. Don't talk about relationships. Just have fun and make her laugh. If she starts giving you IOIs, go in for the move. Don't let another date slip away with no action (unless she's really just trying to be friends.. in that case.. next)
 

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Agreed, she asked if i want to join her and her friends to go wine tasting..lets hope this isnt some cheap, very bad ploy to hook me up with one of her friends;) that would be evil! However I just got back from a date with an easy 9 and a regular of mine (a 7.5-8) just text me "come over and fvk me"..so I'm in a good spot!!! :)
 
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