Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Interesting reading on women and sex drive

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http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare?page=2

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"Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context," says Edward O. Laumann, PhD, a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago and lead author of a major survey of sexual practices,


I thought this was important..

Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. "I hear women say in my office that desire originates much more between the ears than between the legs," says Esther Perel, a New York City psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity. "For women there is a need for a plot -- hence the romance novel. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there; it is the longing that is the fuel for desire," Perel says.

this is the sht we preach here every day. Don't be so eager to go from a to z (guilty!) and kill the the story line these chicks crave
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context,"
Realllllllyyyyyyyy professor???? I guess it makes more sense that finding a ONS at a club is easier than a church. Score one for academia.

Also, the story doesn't end when it reaches sex. It's just most likely the CLIMAX (hehe..) of the story is reached when a fvck is involved. There are still ways to fuel the plot rather than extended the time you make her wait. Make her wait too long and she will find another dude to write the chapters in her book.
 

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Lol, sounds like this prof found all this info out from checking out this board!
 

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Upside said:
Realllllllyyyyyyyy professor???? I guess it makes more sense that finding a ONS at a club is easier than a church. Score one for academia.

Also, the story doesn't end when it reaches sex. It's just most likely the CLIMAX (hehe..) of the story is reached when a fvck is involved. There are still ways to fuel the plot rather than extended the time you make her wait. Make her wait too long and she will find another dude to write the chapters in her book.
Very well said. If I had a nickel for every time Ive missed the opportunity to have sex when the iron was hot so to speak, and I didnt act accordingly for fear that I was going to fast, I'd be a wealthy man by now.
 

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Its how you act AFTER the sex is when the real fun starts IMO.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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