"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Interesting reading on women and sex drive

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http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare?page=2

Some highlights..

"Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context," says Edward O. Laumann, PhD, a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago and lead author of a major survey of sexual practices,


I thought this was important..

Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. "I hear women say in my office that desire originates much more between the ears than between the legs," says Esther Perel, a New York City psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity. "For women there is a need for a plot -- hence the romance novel. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there; it is the longing that is the fuel for desire," Perel says.

this is the sht we preach here every day. Don't be so eager to go from a to z (guilty!) and kill the the story line these chicks crave
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context,"
Realllllllyyyyyyyy professor???? I guess it makes more sense that finding a ONS at a club is easier than a church. Score one for academia.

Also, the story doesn't end when it reaches sex. It's just most likely the CLIMAX (hehe..) of the story is reached when a fvck is involved. There are still ways to fuel the plot rather than extended the time you make her wait. Make her wait too long and she will find another dude to write the chapters in her book.
 

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Lol, sounds like this prof found all this info out from checking out this board!
 

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Upside said:
Realllllllyyyyyyyy professor???? I guess it makes more sense that finding a ONS at a club is easier than a church. Score one for academia.

Also, the story doesn't end when it reaches sex. It's just most likely the CLIMAX (hehe..) of the story is reached when a fvck is involved. There are still ways to fuel the plot rather than extended the time you make her wait. Make her wait too long and she will find another dude to write the chapters in her book.
Very well said. If I had a nickel for every time Ive missed the opportunity to have sex when the iron was hot so to speak, and I didnt act accordingly for fear that I was going to fast, I'd be a wealthy man by now.
 

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Its how you act AFTER the sex is when the real fun starts IMO.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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