"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Interesting reading on women and sex drive

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http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare?page=2

Some highlights..

"Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context," says Edward O. Laumann, PhD, a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago and lead author of a major survey of sexual practices,


I thought this was important..

Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. "I hear women say in my office that desire originates much more between the ears than between the legs," says Esther Perel, a New York City psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity. "For women there is a need for a plot -- hence the romance novel. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there; it is the longing that is the fuel for desire," Perel says.

this is the sht we preach here every day. Don't be so eager to go from a to z (guilty!) and kill the the story line these chicks crave
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context,"
Realllllllyyyyyyyy professor???? I guess it makes more sense that finding a ONS at a club is easier than a church. Score one for academia.

Also, the story doesn't end when it reaches sex. It's just most likely the CLIMAX (hehe..) of the story is reached when a fvck is involved. There are still ways to fuel the plot rather than extended the time you make her wait. Make her wait too long and she will find another dude to write the chapters in her book.
 

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Lol, sounds like this prof found all this info out from checking out this board!
 

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Upside said:
Realllllllyyyyyyyy professor???? I guess it makes more sense that finding a ONS at a club is easier than a church. Score one for academia.

Also, the story doesn't end when it reaches sex. It's just most likely the CLIMAX (hehe..) of the story is reached when a fvck is involved. There are still ways to fuel the plot rather than extended the time you make her wait. Make her wait too long and she will find another dude to write the chapters in her book.
Very well said. If I had a nickel for every time Ive missed the opportunity to have sex when the iron was hot so to speak, and I didnt act accordingly for fear that I was going to fast, I'd be a wealthy man by now.
 

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Its how you act AFTER the sex is when the real fun starts IMO.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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