"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Interesting perspective heard from a girl

skinnydart

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So this HB and another guy she knew as a friend came in my office, and were talking. What she said was interesting but contradicted some of the prevalent concepts given on this forum.

He: Yeah, I’m actually flying home for fall break with someone from my class.
She: Is it a girl?
He: Yeah, I kinda like her, but she already has a boyfriend
She: So? Ask her out!
He: No! I’m not going to do that. I mean I know the guy she’s going out with, he would hate that.
She: Why do guys think that just because a girl has a boyfriend, they don’t want to be asked out anymore? Girls love it when they are fought for. Girls want to be wanted.
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She: Most girls are still looking for a guy that closer fits their dream guy. Don’t worry if we’re going out with someone at the time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fatality

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Maybe this girl is just a cheating slut or maybe an attention *****. I do think that atleast 75% of girls between the age of 18-25 would cheat.
 
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This girl who is responding is obviously an American hor or has the thinking of one!!
 

sapphire

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It just fits in with the idea that many women are constantly looking for the better and bigger deal (BBD). Until then she will hang with any schmuck who happens to be around. Does not neccesarily make her a ho.
 

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Sapphire that is a good point

I like ur thoughts

gotta go, i'll add something soon

Laters
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Chazz

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If it was me, I wouldn't listen to this girl. She is in the same line where all the girls tell you how girls love to get flowers and encourage you to be AFC.

Besides, if she cheats her bf with this guy, she is gonna do the same to him when some other guy asks her out.
 

becker

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Good point by Chazz, I'll have to somewhat agree on that, even though I don't like generalizing most of the time.

I don't see any harm in asking a girl out who is with a BF, just to see what she says. You can always just not go out with her. It's maybe a good test to see if she's interested in you that much, as well as a field test for some of this crud. I know there are some girls who are pretty darn loyal, but can't resist the attention. There are also girls who are pretty steadfast and won't want to do anything with you.

Either way, it could be that she's attracted to you but faithful, attracted to you and not faithful, or not attracted to you.
 
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