Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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wutangfinancial said:
I have had numerous girls say they want to be physically attracted to me, but they can't do it. They want to be my friends, and want to be in a relationship with me, but a taller, better looking me that arouses them.
Dumbass. Two cyber slaps upside the head for your general pvssyness, and lame a$$ excuses.

YOU NEED TO AROUSE THEM STIMULATE THEM.

Being a whining pvssy is going to get you NOWHERE... don't blame your looks or height.
 
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Wutang - what is your greatest strength?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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wutangfinancial said:
I dunno. I go out in into the field constantly. I have no approach anxiety anymore. I can ask for a number without caring about the answer. That's more than a lot of guys. But I can't make a girl sexually attracted to me. Again, it might be something in my actions I'm just not aware. In any case, I don't know what else I can do. I kind of want somebody w/a lot of success to watch me and say what I did wrong. I wish this site had a video feature.

For real though, I'm NOT just sitting and feeling sorry for myself, even if my posts on here make it look like that. I'd be willing to video record myself in the field and let the masters tare me to pieces on my technique. No problem. Hows that for cajones?
Well this is good.

But sometimes it takes TIME, too.

Everyone goes thru droughts, everyone. This could be a drought time for you, which means don't beat yourself up if you aren't meeting anyone you click with.

Use this time to practice little things, and to improve yourself. Eventually, (sooner rather than later I bet) you will click with someone.
 
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wutangfinancial said:
Greatest strength? Intellect, ...BTW, my greatest weakness-depression. Anxiety. OCD. .
Your anxiety is getting in the way of showing them your intellect, and your sad state gets in the way of your humor!! There is no way around this unless you take the pressure off of yourself "to get a girl"- it is only leading you to more depression!!! And the cycle continues!
 

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wutangfinancial said:
yep, even at 65, she still puts looks as her main priority. I get yelled at when I get real with people on here, but reality isn't all warm and mushy. If you're short and unnatractive, it just ain't gonna happen for you.

You cannot hate women for it. Hate your genetics, hate chance, but don't blame women, which is what most guys here do. It's not that women are trying to act too good for you. In a lot of cases, they want to be attracted to you. But you can't force physical attraction. I have had numerous girls say they want to be physically attracted to me, but they can't do it. They want to be my friends, and want to be in a relationship with me, but a taller, better looking me that arouses them.

And that's where this whole nice guys finish last stuff is misguided...being nice isn't a turn off. Being ugly is. Most ugly people are nice. Thus, when labeled a "nice" guy, it's a euphimism for sexually unnattractive. A mean ugly person will have no friends, and no girls.
I can remember when that's happened to me too.
 

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Wutang you don't know what you're talking about. All because 1 lady is extremely superficial doesn't mean anything. The guy she was with couldn't seduce her, that's all. I've seen hot babes with ugly dudes, you've seen hot babes with ugly dudes.

This thread is completely false claiming that looks are everything. I can't believe we're basing this off what a 65 year old single lady posts. Hmmm, I wonder why the fvck she is single at 65. Because she's a dumb b!tch.

Wutang stop making excuses for your shortcomings already and get what you want. I think you're looking for acceptance from the ladies. They should be looking for acceptance from you. I'm starting to get pissed that you use wutang in your name, you don't deserve that right, by slandering the Wu Tang Clan with your pussified rants.
 

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You are so down on yourself that you can't connect with your sexuality.

You're not communicating sexually with women.

Women can sense from your eyes, body language , tone of voice, even how you feel and how you radiate that feeling, if you are a sexual person, and can arouse her.
Bascially, if you're not presenting yourself to her as a sexual man, she will NOT see you as a lover, or as a sexual "threat".

Be the "sexual threat".

Learn how.


And then do it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I judge a girls potential based on looks first. If a girl has the looks(pretty face, nice body, dress) then I attempt to make a connection. Shallow I know but thats just me. Of course not all good looking girls have substance. Thats second. For me its looks first and then everything else. I would imagine most good looking girls do the same.
 

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I mean I would never consider being with someone I didnt think was attractive. And my standards have gone up over time.
 

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Interceptor said:
Be the "sexual threat".
Like when a woman acts really shy and nervously touches herself when she's close to you because you radiate an aura of sexuality. Igniting her sexuality with your mere presence will excite her. That's something you want to stir in women.
 

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it's all about personality, of course. make sure pickup isn't your life. have opinions about something, anything. do something new every six months. enjoy life!

an airhead HB10 couldn't possibly compete in my book with a really smart HB8. i wouldn't give the 10 the time of day if I was with a cool, smart, but perhaps not as drop-dead gorgeous girl. it's just not worth it.
 

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Can't believe a 65 year old woman is judging people on looks!

BTW people on dating sites are there for a reason... they likely have an ideal and will settle for nothing less.

Everybody has different views on looks which is good.. I used to like girls who I thought were good looking but now I think they're average. Even though I like good looking women I also liked a girl who was average after getting to know her...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I mostly agree with what wutangfinancial is saying. I’ve always had women attracted to me and with some, what they see when they look at me, is all that their attraction can be based on. I’ve got an athletic body and soft blue eyes and a smile that makes some women melt. There are other characteristics that women find attractive about me but it is my physical presence that draws them in. It is the game I play when I go out.

Every girlfriend I’ve ever had, I’m sure, was attracted to me before I ever spoke a word to her.

My girlfriend is hot and friendly and so are her friends. Thus, when I’m out with them I get to see, right up front, all kinds of guys hitting on hot chicks. Mostly, with these chicks anyway, if a guy starts to hit on one of them, he’s already lost because these girls can out game most any guy. They’re really picky with most guys being little more than entertainment for them. If they fall for a guy it is usually done, just by the guy walking through the door.
 

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You bring an interesting perspective potato, but it's worthless. Maybe your GF and her friends are really superficial. Looks help a lot, but like I stated before you still see beautiful women with ugly and broke guys, because they have such charisma. Once you let the charisma seep into a woman's psyche, her whole view on a guy can change and she will be see something completely different that what she originally saw.
 

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I’m sure you’ve seen beautiful women with men who you didn’t think were good looking. Much more likely you’ve seen beautiful women with good looking guys. Just because one woman goes for a less desirable man doesn’t mean that women aren’t primarily attracted to a man physically.

A good looking guy who knows how to use his looks to his advantage will always have far, far more women attracted to him than an average guy with the best game in the world.

You know, every guy has had that sensation where there is some girl and you just can’t get her out of your thoughts, and it’s all based on the image that she projects. Women get these same sensations over hot guys. Just as not all men have a reasonable shot at the woman who most strikes his fancy, not all women have a reasonable shot so they tend to settle.

You can see this attitude in the posts elsewhere that’ll complain about HB9 and 10’s being stuck up or crazy or what ever, that the poster prefers the HB7-8. That’s him settling. The hot women aren’t attracted to him and as such don’t have interactions that are as favorable to the guy as he’d like. Yet with the slightly less attractive women, he finds that he can have an interaction more favorable to him, so, he finds the less attractive more to his liking. Women are the same way.

Women always prefer the more handsome, masculine man. It’s just that there are more good looking women than there are good looking men.
 

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Half of what you're saying is wrong, the other half you're just stating the obvious. I'll break it down by paragraph: 1-O 2-W 3-W 4-W 5-O.
 

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SickAgain said:
Half of what you're saying is wrong, the other half you're just stating the obvious. I'll break it down by paragraph: 1-O 2-W 3-W 4-W 5-O.
So, in spite of your earlier proclamations to the contrary, you are now conceding, as obvious, “Women always prefer the more handsome, masculine man”?

If you really doubt that good looks will get you further than anything else consider this. Say if you go to a large social gathering (200 people, half of them being women). A typical PUA with good game is going to get like what, 4 or 5 phone numbers, half of which will flake on him. The good looking guy on the other hand, doing very little, if anything, will get half, like 50, of the women noticing him, going, “oooohhhh!”

You go to enough of these and the PUA starts to get a reputation as a being a player with many of the women distrusting of and actively avoiding him. The good looking guy on the other hand will begin to be treated like a celebrity. Many of the women will jump at the opportunity to enjoy his company and offer him more respect and admiration than he has done to deserve; there will be those pesky women with an unshakable crush buzzing about; and when the good looking guy looks into the eyes of the prettiest girl in the room, they both look at each other with a look that knows.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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