You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dumbass. Two cyber slaps upside the head for your general pvssyness, and lame a$$ excuses.wutangfinancial said:I have had numerous girls say they want to be physically attracted to me, but they can't do it. They want to be my friends, and want to be in a relationship with me, but a taller, better looking me that arouses them.
who cares what a 90 year old grandma on a dating site thinks?ricorico said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well this is good.wutangfinancial said:I dunno. I go out in into the field constantly. I have no approach anxiety anymore. I can ask for a number without caring about the answer. That's more than a lot of guys. But I can't make a girl sexually attracted to me. Again, it might be something in my actions I'm just not aware. In any case, I don't know what else I can do. I kind of want somebody w/a lot of success to watch me and say what I did wrong. I wish this site had a video feature.
For real though, I'm NOT just sitting and feeling sorry for myself, even if my posts on here make it look like that. I'd be willing to video record myself in the field and let the masters tare me to pieces on my technique. No problem. Hows that for cajones?
Your anxiety is getting in the way of showing them your intellect, and your sad state gets in the way of your humor!! There is no way around this unless you take the pressure off of yourself "to get a girl"- it is only leading you to more depression!!! And the cycle continues!wutangfinancial said:Greatest strength? Intellect, ...BTW, my greatest weakness-depression. Anxiety. OCD. .
I can remember when that's happened to me too.wutangfinancial said:yep, even at 65, she still puts looks as her main priority. I get yelled at when I get real with people on here, but reality isn't all warm and mushy. If you're short and unnatractive, it just ain't gonna happen for you.
You cannot hate women for it. Hate your genetics, hate chance, but don't blame women, which is what most guys here do. It's not that women are trying to act too good for you. In a lot of cases, they want to be attracted to you. But you can't force physical attraction. I have had numerous girls say they want to be physically attracted to me, but they can't do it. They want to be my friends, and want to be in a relationship with me, but a taller, better looking me that arouses them.
And that's where this whole nice guys finish last stuff is misguided...being nice isn't a turn off. Being ugly is. Most ugly people are nice. Thus, when labeled a "nice" guy, it's a euphimism for sexually unnattractive. A mean ugly person will have no friends, and no girls.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Like when a woman acts really shy and nervously touches herself when she's close to you because you radiate an aura of sexuality. Igniting her sexuality with your mere presence will excite her. That's something you want to stir in women.Interceptor said:Be the "sexual threat".
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
So, in spite of your earlier proclamations to the contrary, you are now conceding, as obvious, “Women always prefer the more handsome, masculine man”?SickAgain said:Half of what you're saying is wrong, the other half you're just stating the obvious. I'll break it down by paragraph: 1-O 2-W 3-W 4-W 5-O.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.