"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Interesting Date + Text-Game

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Had a first date with a cool HB who is pretty close to ideal, about a 7.5, great career, with a ton in common. But I was feeling zero chemistry, and I surmised her interest as very low-level as the night progressed despite rapport and my attempts at kino. I decided to chalk it up as a loss. I offered her a lift home.

I wasn't going to escalate, and was happy for her to go her own way.

Outside of her house, she leans over to kiss me, then says "we must do this again." The next morning, a text from her telling me she had a great time. Which was all a little surprising.

However, my follow-up text was ignored. Of course.

Text her again, or phone ASAP and just schedule another date?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ChrisHughes said:
Had a first date with a cool HB who is pretty close to ideal, about a 7.5, great career, with a ton in common. But I was feeling zero chemistry, and I surmised her interest as very low-level as the night progressed despite rapport and my attempts at kino. I decided to chalk it up as a loss. I offered her a lift home.

I wasn't going to escalate, and was happy for her to go her own way.

Outside of her house, she leans over to kiss me, then says "we must do this again." The next morning, a text from her telling me she had a great time. Which was all a little surprising.

However, my follow-up text was ignored. Of course.

Text her again, or phone ASAP and just schedule another date?
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IGNORED? how many days was it ignored?
 
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I don't think she'd say she had a "great time" if she wasn't at least a little interested in seeing you again. What was your follow up text?
 
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I surmised her interest as very low-level

Im going to say the date was a lose-lose. Either you misread her interest level and she ACTUALLY WAS interested, and you never escalated....or her interest level really is low....BUT she's the type of girl that loves attention and free dinners.

That being said...a girl that is not attracted to a guy, will not kiss him. It would be equivalent to us kissing a HB3. Text her in a few days and try to schedule another date...something with alcohol this time. And see if her interest level is there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There were definitely no free dinners. I bought her one drink, and just the one.

Her kissing me on the lips followed my "all the best" when I expected her to just exit the car. My follow-up text the next morning was a facetious text about our next date, but there was no definite offer on my part, or no concrete date set.
 
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I'm confused. Was your follow-up text a response to hers or a brand new thread?

If it was a follow-up to hers then there was nothing to respond to. Just ask her out again. If she ignores, then next.

If it was a new thread and she ignored, it is a 100% next.
 
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