"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Interesting article on flirting from a psychology point
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Very interesting and true. BUT, there are the women who like to "flirt for flirting's sake" and have no real sexual interest in those men they choose to flirt with. In this case, I believe they flirt for the sakes of their own egos. They love it when they get male attention, "AKA Attention (w)hores" BUT if the male takes it too far, as he is genetically programmed to, they get disgusted, and ask him to back off. They want to do the little mating rituals, without actually wanting to mate. As a male, this makes as much sense to me, as sitting on a toilet without needing to relieve one's self. It is a big waste of time, energy and effort for both parties. As a male, I will only SPECIFICALLY flirt with a female I wish to copuate with. Imagine flirting with unattractive females you had no interest in?
i ****ing hate transyes ....
there should be a law that says they have to tell people they make out with or even flirt with that theyr transies... Like a aids...
thank god that i havetn met one yet , just hate the thought of what if that girl ur talking to is actually a male...
about the rest of the text yeah sounds to me like that these women are AH , flirting only to boost theyr ego....
there should be a law that says they have to tell people they make out with or even flirt with that theyr transies... Like a aids...
thank god that i havetn met one yet , just hate the thought of what if that girl ur talking to is actually a male...
about the rest of the text yeah sounds to me like that these women are AH , flirting only to boost theyr ego....
yes sadly I live with one I get all the hair twirling, hair flicking etc...and I do see this girl loves attention and is quite fond of drama, I wouldn't have a relationship with this girl as she is hard work and HM but I am still drawn to her and strangely attracted to her....I have someone else I am courting at the moment and believe me I have had some interesting and forward comments about this one from the room mate.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well there are chicks that flirt with everyone that's for sure.
You can tell if they are in to you though when you get em alone and you call their bluff.
But flirting with every girl is good practice too. It makes the homely ones happy and keeps your game high.
Plus the mere fact that you work the material on all of em, means you don't put a hottie on a pedestal. You give her the same stuff you give a war hog. Minus the neg hits. A war hog might punch you for some of them!
You can tell if they are in to you though when you get em alone and you call their bluff.
But flirting with every girl is good practice too. It makes the homely ones happy and keeps your game high.
Plus the mere fact that you work the material on all of em, means you don't put a hottie on a pedestal. You give her the same stuff you give a war hog. Minus the neg hits. A war hog might punch you for some of them!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
No one has ever said that only women can have fun flirting. Yeah I know, there are those that say that DJs shouldn't flirt but if you are already charismatic, its already a part of your persona.
The thing that the article hits on (although lightly) is the fact that flirting can be done just for fun. This is another reason why I think DJs should flirt more. Instead of getting frustrated that a woman is just jerking you around by flirting, give her a taste of her own medicine!
Even better, start friendly rivalries between women to vie for your flirtatious attention. One bit of suggestion is not to include women you are actively sarging in these games. When you interact with them, let it be apparent that your flirtations are a bit more specifically directed and customized for her and her alone.
The thing that the article hits on (although lightly) is the fact that flirting can be done just for fun. This is another reason why I think DJs should flirt more. Instead of getting frustrated that a woman is just jerking you around by flirting, give her a taste of her own medicine!
Even better, start friendly rivalries between women to vie for your flirtatious attention. One bit of suggestion is not to include women you are actively sarging in these games. When you interact with them, let it be apparent that your flirtations are a bit more specifically directed and customized for her and her alone.