"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just a quick question...

Paid a quick visit to my GFs today on the way home from work.

She made me a coffee and we had a chat for a while. She is currently suffering from Epilepsy and is taking 3 different kinds of MEDs including anti-depressants.

After a while she said she would like to spen evening alone just having a bath and chilling out, so I felt that was a strong hint to leave which I did.

Im wondering:

What would you guys do?

Acknowledge that she is going through a lot with all the MEDS and just give her time and space to relax?

Or view this as a red flag of interest level being killed? Initiate more challenge, as to be honest mine is border-line complacent at the moment

Any ideas?? Be brutal
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't stay in relationships with crazy chicks. It's not worth it and will only result in frustration and pain.
 
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JoeMarron said:
Don't stay in relationships with crazy chicks. It's not worth it and will only result in frustration and pain.
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Epilepsy is a disease.
It's not the same thing as having a personality disorder.

Hyper2010, the medication is likely having a very strong effect on her right now, and if she's just starting out on them there is an adjustment period. Specifically, her sex drive will be killed with them. It's not that she's not interested in you, is that her body is working against her. If she's your girlfriend, and you have strong feelings for her, I would advise openly communicating what you want. If intimacy is an issue, bring it up to her. She can talk to her doctor to adjust the dosage so that it doesn't interfere with your relationship. Good luck.
 
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pinkfl said:
Epilepsy is a disease.
It's not the same thing as having a personality disorder.

Hyper2010, the medication is likely having a very strong effect on her right now, and if she's just starting out on them there is an adjustment period. Specifically, her sex drive will be killed with them. It's not that she's not interested in you, is that her body is working against her. If she's your girlfriend, and you have strong feelings for her, I would advise openly communicating what you want. If intimacy is an issue, bring it up to her. She can talk to her doctor to adjust the dosage so that it doesn't interfere with your relationship. Good luck.
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Missed the epilepsy part. Anyways the situation is the same. She's not in an opitimal mental state and there's nothing TC can do about it. Stick it out if you want man just know that it'll be an uphill battle
 
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Spin plates. Maybe if she really wants you she will control her shaking.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Just go do something else. Sometimes people just need their space.

Even if you're in a committed relationship with her, your life should be full enough to include several pursuits that do not depend or revolve around her. That's just healthy.
 
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