"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hyper2010

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Just a quick question...

Paid a quick visit to my GFs today on the way home from work.

She made me a coffee and we had a chat for a while. She is currently suffering from Epilepsy and is taking 3 different kinds of MEDs including anti-depressants.

After a while she said she would like to spen evening alone just having a bath and chilling out, so I felt that was a strong hint to leave which I did.

Im wondering:

What would you guys do?

Acknowledge that she is going through a lot with all the MEDS and just give her time and space to relax?

Or view this as a red flag of interest level being killed? Initiate more challenge, as to be honest mine is border-line complacent at the moment

Any ideas?? Be brutal
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't stay in relationships with crazy chicks. It's not worth it and will only result in frustration and pain.
 

pinkfl

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JoeMarron said:
Don't stay in relationships with crazy chicks. It's not worth it and will only result in frustration and pain.
Epilepsy is a disease.
It's not the same thing as having a personality disorder.

Hyper2010, the medication is likely having a very strong effect on her right now, and if she's just starting out on them there is an adjustment period. Specifically, her sex drive will be killed with them. It's not that she's not interested in you, is that her body is working against her. If she's your girlfriend, and you have strong feelings for her, I would advise openly communicating what you want. If intimacy is an issue, bring it up to her. She can talk to her doctor to adjust the dosage so that it doesn't interfere with your relationship. Good luck.
 

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pinkfl said:
Epilepsy is a disease.
It's not the same thing as having a personality disorder.

Hyper2010, the medication is likely having a very strong effect on her right now, and if she's just starting out on them there is an adjustment period. Specifically, her sex drive will be killed with them. It's not that she's not interested in you, is that her body is working against her. If she's your girlfriend, and you have strong feelings for her, I would advise openly communicating what you want. If intimacy is an issue, bring it up to her. She can talk to her doctor to adjust the dosage so that it doesn't interfere with your relationship. Good luck.
Missed the epilepsy part. Anyways the situation is the same. She's not in an opitimal mental state and there's nothing TC can do about it. Stick it out if you want man just know that it'll be an uphill battle
 

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Spin plates. Maybe if she really wants you she will control her shaking.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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LongLostFriend

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Just go do something else. Sometimes people just need their space.

Even if you're in a committed relationship with her, your life should be full enough to include several pursuits that do not depend or revolve around her. That's just healthy.
 
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