"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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interaction with my next door neighbor failed to go as planned

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just can't anymore...you do whatever you want because that's what you are going to do anyway.

Continuing this convo is pointless
But every time you reply to him you continue this nonsense. Stop replying and see what happens.
 

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You're a lost cause.
On the forum, I've mentioned a female coworker whose son is a career felon ladies man.

I discuss woman stuff with that coworker. She's in agreement on my idea of what to tell my neighbor next.
 

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I ran into my neighbor a short bit ago. She was talking about the 25 year old receptionist again.

I finally managed to tilt the discussion in the direction I wanted. I flat out told her the receptionist is about 20 years younger than I prefer.

So I finally had an in to ask the question I've been wanting to ask: Does my neighbor think the typical 45+ year old woman would find me too young? (Mainly a rhetorical question, meant to fish information out of my neighbor on whether I have a chance with her)

The good news: I got the closure of finding out whether I have a chance with my neighbor without having to officially make a move on her.

The bad news: I don't have a chance with her.

She said "I personally want a 45+ year old man. But some older women would go for a 33 year old man, as long as he lacks the negative traits often found in younger men."

She then mentioned some other qualities she looks for in a man. In addition to my age disqualifying me from getting my neighbor's beaver, I also fall short (no pun intended) of her height requirement.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The bad news: I don't have a chance with her.
Nor with the vast majority of women who are decades your senior, GM. Make your peace with this, and start pursuing chicks your own age and younger. Heterosexual women crave leadership from their SOs, and men younger than themselves don't provide that

Cougars are similar to trannies: They're a vanishingly minute fraction of the human race, who've gotten a disproportionate amount of airtime. Enough to create THE ILLUSION that they're are legions of them
 

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I ran into my neighbor a short bit ago. She was talking about the 25 year old receptionist again.

I finally managed to tilt the discussion in the direction I wanted. I flat out told her the receptionist is about 20 years younger than I prefer.

So I finally had an in to ask the question I've been wanting to ask: Does my neighbor think the typical 45+ year old woman would find me too young? (Mainly a rhetorical question, meant to fish information out of my neighbor on whether I have a chance with her)

The good news: I got the closure of finding out whether I have a chance with my neighbor without having to officially make a move on her.

The bad news: I don't have a chance with her.

She said "I personally want a 45+ year old man. But some older women would go for a 33 year old man, as long as he lacks the negative traits often found in younger men."

She then mentioned some other qualities she looks for in a man. In addition to my age disqualifying me from getting my neighbor's beaver, I also fall short (no pun intended) of her height requirement.
Reading between the lines "You possess those negative traits and are also kinda creepy"
 

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Reading between the lines "You possess those negative traits and are also kinda creepy"
They call it listcrawler for a reason. There's even a section for milfs.
 

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The problem here is that the OP is going into this with expectations. You cannot have expectations either positive or negative. It's best not to assume anything. Date and see what happens.... if you aren't getting what you want, forget about whomever you are interested in and move on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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