i am affraid i may be insane or have a mental problem. i have had a good freind for several years whom i shared everything with and had no intention of developing a relationship with. she left and goes to a different school now and soon afterwards i realised i like her quiet allot. i see her once a fortnight max. she knows im intrested. but shes told everyone i am her brother. My insanity was dorment for quiet a while but it has recently been rekindled she knows i like her again though i never told her ( say somethingf to one person it gets around. anyway. conclusion im quiet tired of it and im just truely intent on now going out with her. she knows everything about me. i am her "brother". what on earth do i do to change this into a relationship despite how unwise and insane it is.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
eaglez1177
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1. You have a classic case of one-itis. Let this girl go, shes obviously NOT interested in you, and even referred to you as her brother, which is the least sexual of things. Not to mention that you also screwed yourself over by telling someone you like her.
2. I wouldnt exactly call yourself insane. Thats something completely different, and for people in mental institutions. You just have a huge obsession over this chick, and need to get over it.
3. If she goes to a different school, thats even more the reason to get over her. Im not sure what "once a fortnight" means, but im guessing you dont see her that often. That should definitely help in getting over her, but you have to also delete all possible methods of contact with her. That includes cell number, house number, aim, msn, facebook, myspace, EVERYTHING.
Good luck, focus on other girls, and get over it.
2. I wouldnt exactly call yourself insane. Thats something completely different, and for people in mental institutions. You just have a huge obsession over this chick, and need to get over it.
3. If she goes to a different school, thats even more the reason to get over her. Im not sure what "once a fortnight" means, but im guessing you dont see her that often. That should definitely help in getting over her, but you have to also delete all possible methods of contact with her. That includes cell number, house number, aim, msn, facebook, myspace, EVERYTHING.
Good luck, focus on other girls, and get over it.
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Once every 2 weekseaglez1177 said:
thank you eaglez1177
u gave me exactly what i needed. The concept of unbreakable love and all the other **** the media shoves down your throat makes it difficult to think straight on just the facts of a problem such as this.i apprectiacte this much needed slap in the face. And with these three driving realities in my mind it will be difficult to be infatuated again.
u gave me exactly what i needed. The concept of unbreakable love and all the other **** the media shoves down your throat makes it difficult to think straight on just the facts of a problem such as this.i apprectiacte this much needed slap in the face. And with these three driving realities in my mind it will be difficult to be infatuated again.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
War Against Betaism
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I've long hated the media for making me the same way. To be honest I enjoyed movies like Serendipity and other generic chick flicks about destiny and meeting the right guy and it brainwashed me into getting one-itis with every single girl that I became close with. Whenever I tried getting close with a girl, they would friendzone me and I never ever got the hint.hurt16 said:
What's your email? I see a lot of me in you and I really know how it feels like to be in that situation. I wanna send you a book that helped me more than any other piece of dating, or even self help guide has ever helped me. And I've read a lot of things the past couple years; from Swinggcat to David DeAngelo, Real Social Dynamics to Ross Jeffries, Mystery, etc. You don't have to post it right here, just send me a PM.