i am affraid i may be insane or have a mental problem. i have had a good freind for several years whom i shared everything with and had no intention of developing a relationship with. she left and goes to a different school now and soon afterwards i realised i like her quiet allot. i see her once a fortnight max. she knows im intrested. but shes told everyone i am her brother. My insanity was dorment for quiet a while but it has recently been rekindled she knows i like her again though i never told her ( say somethingf to one person it gets around. anyway. conclusion im quiet tired of it and im just truely intent on now going out with her. she knows everything about me. i am her "brother". what on earth do i do to change this into a relationship despite how unwise and insane it is.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Insanity
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
eaglez1177
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1. You have a classic case of one-itis. Let this girl go, shes obviously NOT interested in you, and even referred to you as her brother, which is the least sexual of things. Not to mention that you also screwed yourself over by telling someone you like her.
2. I wouldnt exactly call yourself insane. Thats something completely different, and for people in mental institutions. You just have a huge obsession over this chick, and need to get over it.
3. If she goes to a different school, thats even more the reason to get over her. Im not sure what "once a fortnight" means, but im guessing you dont see her that often. That should definitely help in getting over her, but you have to also delete all possible methods of contact with her. That includes cell number, house number, aim, msn, facebook, myspace, EVERYTHING.
Good luck, focus on other girls, and get over it.
2. I wouldnt exactly call yourself insane. Thats something completely different, and for people in mental institutions. You just have a huge obsession over this chick, and need to get over it.
3. If she goes to a different school, thats even more the reason to get over her. Im not sure what "once a fortnight" means, but im guessing you dont see her that often. That should definitely help in getting over her, but you have to also delete all possible methods of contact with her. That includes cell number, house number, aim, msn, facebook, myspace, EVERYTHING.
Good luck, focus on other girls, and get over it.
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Joshski
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Once every 2 weekseaglez1177 said:
thank you eaglez1177
u gave me exactly what i needed. The concept of unbreakable love and all the other **** the media shoves down your throat makes it difficult to think straight on just the facts of a problem such as this.i apprectiacte this much needed slap in the face. And with these three driving realities in my mind it will be difficult to be infatuated again.
u gave me exactly what i needed. The concept of unbreakable love and all the other **** the media shoves down your throat makes it difficult to think straight on just the facts of a problem such as this.i apprectiacte this much needed slap in the face. And with these three driving realities in my mind it will be difficult to be infatuated again.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
War Against Betaism
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I've long hated the media for making me the same way. To be honest I enjoyed movies like Serendipity and other generic chick flicks about destiny and meeting the right guy and it brainwashed me into getting one-itis with every single girl that I became close with. Whenever I tried getting close with a girl, they would friendzone me and I never ever got the hint.hurt16 said:
What's your email? I see a lot of me in you and I really know how it feels like to be in that situation. I wanna send you a book that helped me more than any other piece of dating, or even self help guide has ever helped me. And I've read a lot of things the past couple years; from Swinggcat to David DeAngelo, Real Social Dynamics to Ross Jeffries, Mystery, etc. You don't have to post it right here, just send me a PM.