i am affraid i may be insane or have a mental problem. i have had a good freind for several years whom i shared everything with and had no intention of developing a relationship with. she left and goes to a different school now and soon afterwards i realised i like her quiet allot. i see her once a fortnight max. she knows im intrested. but shes told everyone i am her brother. My insanity was dorment for quiet a while but it has recently been rekindled she knows i like her again though i never told her ( say somethingf to one person it gets around. anyway. conclusion im quiet tired of it and im just truely intent on now going out with her. she knows everything about me. i am her "brother". what on earth do i do to change this into a relationship despite how unwise and insane it is.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Insanity
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
eaglez1177
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1. You have a classic case of one-itis. Let this girl go, shes obviously NOT interested in you, and even referred to you as her brother, which is the least sexual of things. Not to mention that you also screwed yourself over by telling someone you like her.
2. I wouldnt exactly call yourself insane. Thats something completely different, and for people in mental institutions. You just have a huge obsession over this chick, and need to get over it.
3. If she goes to a different school, thats even more the reason to get over her. Im not sure what "once a fortnight" means, but im guessing you dont see her that often. That should definitely help in getting over her, but you have to also delete all possible methods of contact with her. That includes cell number, house number, aim, msn, facebook, myspace, EVERYTHING.
Good luck, focus on other girls, and get over it.
2. I wouldnt exactly call yourself insane. Thats something completely different, and for people in mental institutions. You just have a huge obsession over this chick, and need to get over it.
3. If she goes to a different school, thats even more the reason to get over her. Im not sure what "once a fortnight" means, but im guessing you dont see her that often. That should definitely help in getting over her, but you have to also delete all possible methods of contact with her. That includes cell number, house number, aim, msn, facebook, myspace, EVERYTHING.
Good luck, focus on other girls, and get over it.
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Once every 2 weekseaglez1177 said:
thank you eaglez1177
u gave me exactly what i needed. The concept of unbreakable love and all the other **** the media shoves down your throat makes it difficult to think straight on just the facts of a problem such as this.i apprectiacte this much needed slap in the face. And with these three driving realities in my mind it will be difficult to be infatuated again.
u gave me exactly what i needed. The concept of unbreakable love and all the other **** the media shoves down your throat makes it difficult to think straight on just the facts of a problem such as this.i apprectiacte this much needed slap in the face. And with these three driving realities in my mind it will be difficult to be infatuated again.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
War Against Betaism
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I've long hated the media for making me the same way. To be honest I enjoyed movies like Serendipity and other generic chick flicks about destiny and meeting the right guy and it brainwashed me into getting one-itis with every single girl that I became close with. Whenever I tried getting close with a girl, they would friendzone me and I never ever got the hint.hurt16 said:
What's your email? I see a lot of me in you and I really know how it feels like to be in that situation. I wanna send you a book that helped me more than any other piece of dating, or even self help guide has ever helped me. And I've read a lot of things the past couple years; from Swinggcat to David DeAngelo, Real Social Dynamics to Ross Jeffries, Mystery, etc. You don't have to post it right here, just send me a PM.