"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Insane living dilemma.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Master Don Juan
the alcoholism and her being torn is your own mind trying to ratoinalize what you want to see. it's not happening.
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Master Don Juan
i'm a former crack cocaine addict. i have been clean off that **** since feb 12th, 2005. 12 and a half years.
i don't want to ****ing hear it. you are either ready to give it up or you aren't. don't blame her. no it's not easy. it's not the days of wine and roses (smile, and run away, like a child at play....)
be a man. you need to learn how to be a man before you even think about a woman. you are looking for a woman tom ake you complete. that's not how it works.
dude man the **** up. jesus christ man grow some ****ing balls no wonder she doesn't want you.
i'm a former crack cocaine addict. i have been clean off that **** since feb 12th, 2005. 12 and a half years.
i don't want to ****ing hear it. you are either ready to give it up or you aren't. don't blame her. no it's not easy. it's not the days of wine and roses (smile, and run away, like a child at play....)
be a man. you need to learn how to be a man before you even think about a woman. you are looking for a woman tom ake you complete. that's not how it works.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Uve done right by just playing it cool. If i were u i wpuld say "look, i dont want to interfere with your relationship or be a third wheel..its just not fair to anyone, i think its best of you stay with him full time but hey we are friends so feel free to hit me up whenever."
Be genuine about that when u tell her, dont do it like a bitter lil bish.
U need to detach yourself from her emotionally. Unless u enjoy being a beta male cuck.
The above advice about my addiction is right but... I am not connecting the two. True, I was a raging alcoholic and I know that. Julian, your advice is what I'm doing and I thank you for adding the third wheel ****. She really want's us to all HANG OUT ALL THE TIME. **** that. May I say this? I failed her and she waited seven years for me. I think the reason I'm so ****ed up is because of my ego. You all talk about Alpha Men and what not and tell me to man up. Not you personally but this board in general.
I WAS/AM getting better. I think the advice of telling me to man up means to set boundaries. I agree. I don't know how this happened. Well, I mainly let it because all of my problems with woman were I couldn't stand how INTO me they got. IN other words, I was NEVER like this and no one I know cares about this because I don't tell them.
I don't bother with labels like "Alpha", etc. but they have their use. To be honest, I don't know many people more Alpha then I am. I told you I own an artsy fag business. I have also been in two branches of the Military, been a Boxer, a Black Belt, Advanced Deep Sea Diver, Investor in various businesses. I know it's the internet and all that ****. I own an amazing house, drive the fastest ****ing car... I have dumped 20 plus chicks over my life. Hmmm, perhaps it's a personal problem. YES, I showed her weakness, I showed her... ****.
You know what kills me, all of these things are good but... being an ******* is what made her leave me. SO So Suave, be my Therapist because the last one just she loved me. Well, SHE MOVED THE **** OUT!!!