"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Insane living dilemma.

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I get everything here. I can't go no contact. I pick her up and drop her off everyday, and I'm her boss.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bro she wasn't groming you for ****. she was using you for favors and probably reduced rent.

the alcoholism and her being torn is your own mind trying to ratoinalize what you want to see. it's not happening.
 

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dude man the **** up. jesus christ man grow some ****ing balls no wonder she doesn't want you.

i'm a former crack cocaine addict. i have been clean off that **** since feb 12th, 2005. 12 and a half years.

i don't want to ****ing hear it. you are either ready to give it up or you aren't. don't blame her. no it's not easy. it's not the days of wine and roses (smile, and run away, like a child at play....)


be a man. you need to learn how to be a man before you even think about a woman. you are looking for a woman tom ake you complete. that's not how it works.
 

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dude man the **** up. jesus christ man grow some ****ing balls no wonder she doesn't want you.

i'm a former crack cocaine addict. i have been clean off that **** since feb 12th, 2005. 12 and a half years.

i don't want to ****ing hear it. you are either ready to give it up or you aren't. don't blame her. no it's not easy. it's not the days of wine and roses (smile, and run away, like a child at play....)


be a man. you need to learn how to be a man before you even think about a woman. you are looking for a woman tom ake you complete. that's not how it works.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks for that. Really. I know my alcoholism is not her fault. I also know she sure as hell ain't helping... I fell into a trap. I think that she broke me and you're right. I appreciate the posts, flames and all. She's getting fat anyway.
 

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In what capacity are you her boss? Manager at a retail store? Uown a company and employ her? Tread lightly an be smart. Play this out smooth.

Uve done right by just playing it cool. If i were u i wpuld say "look, i dont want to interfere with your relationship or be a third wheel..its just not fair to anyone, i think its best of you stay with him full time but hey we are friends so feel free to hit me up whenever."

Be genuine about that when u tell her, dont do it like a bitter lil bish.

U need to detach yourself from her emotionally. Unless u enjoy being a beta male cuck.
 

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Julian. I am her boss at a picture framing and art gallery place. Real artsy crap type ****. I have stayed cool. It's difficult for me to detach emotionally but I'm getting there. She has no idea that this is how I am feeling. That's why I posted here. I would kill myself rather than say ANYTHING that indicates this bothers me.

The above advice about my addiction is right but... I am not connecting the two. True, I was a raging alcoholic and I know that. Julian, your advice is what I'm doing and I thank you for adding the third wheel ****. She really want's us to all HANG OUT ALL THE TIME. **** that. May I say this? I failed her and she waited seven years for me. I think the reason I'm so ****ed up is because of my ego. You all talk about Alpha Men and what not and tell me to man up. Not you personally but this board in general.

I WAS/AM getting better. I think the advice of telling me to man up means to set boundaries. I agree. I don't know how this happened. Well, I mainly let it because all of my problems with woman were I couldn't stand how INTO me they got. IN other words, I was NEVER like this and no one I know cares about this because I don't tell them.

I don't bother with labels like "Alpha", etc. but they have their use. To be honest, I don't know many people more Alpha then I am. I told you I own an artsy fag business. I have also been in two branches of the Military, been a Boxer, a Black Belt, Advanced Deep Sea Diver, Investor in various businesses. I know it's the internet and all that ****. I own an amazing house, drive the fastest ****ing car... I have dumped 20 plus chicks over my life. Hmmm, perhaps it's a personal problem. YES, I showed her weakness, I showed her... ****.

You know what kills me, all of these things are good but... being an ******* is what made her leave me. SO So Suave, be my Therapist because the last one just she loved me. Well, SHE MOVED THE **** OUT!!!
 
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