"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Insane living dilemma.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Master Don Juan
the alcoholism and her being torn is your own mind trying to ratoinalize what you want to see. it's not happening.
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Master Don Juan
i'm a former crack cocaine addict. i have been clean off that **** since feb 12th, 2005. 12 and a half years.
i don't want to ****ing hear it. you are either ready to give it up or you aren't. don't blame her. no it's not easy. it's not the days of wine and roses (smile, and run away, like a child at play....)
be a man. you need to learn how to be a man before you even think about a woman. you are looking for a woman tom ake you complete. that's not how it works.
dude man the **** up. jesus christ man grow some ****ing balls no wonder she doesn't want you.
i'm a former crack cocaine addict. i have been clean off that **** since feb 12th, 2005. 12 and a half years.
i don't want to ****ing hear it. you are either ready to give it up or you aren't. don't blame her. no it's not easy. it's not the days of wine and roses (smile, and run away, like a child at play....)
be a man. you need to learn how to be a man before you even think about a woman. you are looking for a woman tom ake you complete. that's not how it works.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Uve done right by just playing it cool. If i were u i wpuld say "look, i dont want to interfere with your relationship or be a third wheel..its just not fair to anyone, i think its best of you stay with him full time but hey we are friends so feel free to hit me up whenever."
Be genuine about that when u tell her, dont do it like a bitter lil bish.
U need to detach yourself from her emotionally. Unless u enjoy being a beta male cuck.
The above advice about my addiction is right but... I am not connecting the two. True, I was a raging alcoholic and I know that. Julian, your advice is what I'm doing and I thank you for adding the third wheel ****. She really want's us to all HANG OUT ALL THE TIME. **** that. May I say this? I failed her and she waited seven years for me. I think the reason I'm so ****ed up is because of my ego. You all talk about Alpha Men and what not and tell me to man up. Not you personally but this board in general.
I WAS/AM getting better. I think the advice of telling me to man up means to set boundaries. I agree. I don't know how this happened. Well, I mainly let it because all of my problems with woman were I couldn't stand how INTO me they got. IN other words, I was NEVER like this and no one I know cares about this because I don't tell them.
I don't bother with labels like "Alpha", etc. but they have their use. To be honest, I don't know many people more Alpha then I am. I told you I own an artsy fag business. I have also been in two branches of the Military, been a Boxer, a Black Belt, Advanced Deep Sea Diver, Investor in various businesses. I know it's the internet and all that ****. I own an amazing house, drive the fastest ****ing car... I have dumped 20 plus chicks over my life. Hmmm, perhaps it's a personal problem. YES, I showed her weakness, I showed her... ****.
You know what kills me, all of these things are good but... being an ******* is what made her leave me. SO So Suave, be my Therapist because the last one just she loved me. Well, SHE MOVED THE **** OUT!!!