"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Atldude

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so am i fcuked if i am always initiating the phone call, text... she always responds.. but i am always the one initiating...

thanks guys
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alkali

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Yes. Yes you are. If she never calls, texts, talks first. EVER. Then yes.

You are ****ed. To her, you're a needy *****.
 

Monkey

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Guys SHOULD be initiating the phone calls to make dates.

You then judge her reaction to these date suggestions and on these dates to see if shes a keeper.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Atldude

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she does message me on msn sometimes... but what i wanted to find out was if she had sufficient IL
 

COD

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If U Are Getting Sex Who Cares Who Calls
 

Atldude

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well i am not... and she's not the type to put out... i am looking for something long term...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Atldude

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haven't heard from her in about a month... but she's been travelling.. i am screwed?
 

Alphamale1821

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your problem is your focusing way to much on this one chick. You need to date other chicks so that way when this broad doesn't pick up you've got another option.
 

Axcell

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Stop calling her, and wait for her to call you.
You sound so desperate right now, talk to more women; what are you doing being wrapped up on just one!
And if you haven't heard from her, it is probably because she is BUSY. She is not going to make her life revolved around you, give her some space. Drop her an email if she seems like she is going to respond to it while she is gone.
 
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