"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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initiating a hookup or getting to kiss her

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ok, I'm 17 and my problem is that I don't know how to get myself to kiss a girl (say on a first date) or start a hookup (unless I'm drunk... that seems to take the edge off). I've complemented and flattered girls, and I've flirted with them, but always in a joking manner to make it like I'm partially serious, or kidding (just incase). cause the thing is, I feel dumb and awkward saying stuff like "you have nice eyes," or "you're so beautiful." whether or not girls really go for it, it sounds so dumb to me to say all the typical stuff like it's a formula, and I subconsciously feel like they'll think I'm stupid too.

I know I think about it too much, but I need to resolve this. I need to take the steps, from talking, to outright seduction, to kissing her. also, I never know how she'll take it. I don't know when to do it, how to do it, if she's up for it... etc. I know there's probably material about this in the bible, so could someone link me to it? if not, help me out... I'm missing out on opportunities
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ok I understood few replies to my other post, but anyone should be able to help me out for this one, or least point me somewhere
 

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Hey,

To kiss her you don't have to say anything. When you feel like it's the right moment look into her eyes for a bit longer than normal, then go in for the kill.

As for a hookup

I've complemented and flattered girls, and I've flirted with them, but always in a joking manner to make it like I'm partially serious, or kidding (just incase).
It sounds like you are still intimidated by women. No worries, I am too at times, but you need to do everything you can to get over this intimidation. When you flirt and make it look partially serious, the girl you are flirting with will sense this and see you as less confident. The only way to get over this though it to go out and ask these hot chicks out. Don't be afraid of rejection. Learn what you did wrong every time you are rejected and build upon it the next time and you are bound to see success.

well I hope my advice helped.
Good luck.
 

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We suggest checking out The DJ Bible before posting.
 

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ever heard of the kiss test ?! :rolleyes:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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