"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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initiating a hookup or getting to kiss her

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ok, I'm 17 and my problem is that I don't know how to get myself to kiss a girl (say on a first date) or start a hookup (unless I'm drunk... that seems to take the edge off). I've complemented and flattered girls, and I've flirted with them, but always in a joking manner to make it like I'm partially serious, or kidding (just incase). cause the thing is, I feel dumb and awkward saying stuff like "you have nice eyes," or "you're so beautiful." whether or not girls really go for it, it sounds so dumb to me to say all the typical stuff like it's a formula, and I subconsciously feel like they'll think I'm stupid too.

I know I think about it too much, but I need to resolve this. I need to take the steps, from talking, to outright seduction, to kissing her. also, I never know how she'll take it. I don't know when to do it, how to do it, if she's up for it... etc. I know there's probably material about this in the bible, so could someone link me to it? if not, help me out... I'm missing out on opportunities
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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ok I understood few replies to my other post, but anyone should be able to help me out for this one, or least point me somewhere
 

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Hey,

To kiss her you don't have to say anything. When you feel like it's the right moment look into her eyes for a bit longer than normal, then go in for the kill.

As for a hookup

I've complemented and flattered girls, and I've flirted with them, but always in a joking manner to make it like I'm partially serious, or kidding (just incase).
It sounds like you are still intimidated by women. No worries, I am too at times, but you need to do everything you can to get over this intimidation. When you flirt and make it look partially serious, the girl you are flirting with will sense this and see you as less confident. The only way to get over this though it to go out and ask these hot chicks out. Don't be afraid of rejection. Learn what you did wrong every time you are rejected and build upon it the next time and you are bound to see success.

well I hope my advice helped.
Good luck.
 

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New Here?
We suggest checking out The DJ Bible before posting.
 

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ever heard of the kiss test ?! :rolleyes:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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