"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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initial success with neighbor - what do i do next?

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DJArlington

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Gentlemen,

I've known one of my neighbors for about a month and a half now. I threw a party a little while back and she came to the party. At the party, we clicked (I talked to her for about twenty minutes).

About a week ago, I saw her in the hallway. We talked for a few minutes. The other day, she slipped a note underneath my door asking me for a drink. Unluckily, I didn't get home until very late so I couldn't go out with her. The next day, I gave her a call and she came out with my friends and I. We had a really good time and I didn't make any moves on her (Cause she is my neighbor).

What do I do next? I like her and want to get to know her better and possibly develop something. Can I ask her out? OR should I just take it slow and become better friends with her?

thanks....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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golf299

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she is single, yes? ask her out. kiss her. the end.
 
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skinnydart

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Why are you thinking that just because she's your neighbor, she off limits to you? I think you're getting "neighbor" confused with "sister" or "mother".
 
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DJArlington

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Does everyone agree? My friends are telling me to play the "friends" card...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Its a golden opportunity... don't let it pass... Hit It! :)

PS: Ask her to get together... personally asking out seems to "formal." Find out if she is worth it and then go from there.
 
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golf299

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if you don't think you can ask her out because she 'literally lives down the hall', then forget about her. if you aren't planning on asking her out, why would you even post the question?

either ask her out, see what happens. otherwise, forget about her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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