"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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initial success with neighbor - what do i do next?

DJArlington

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Gentlemen,

I've known one of my neighbors for about a month and a half now. I threw a party a little while back and she came to the party. At the party, we clicked (I talked to her for about twenty minutes).

About a week ago, I saw her in the hallway. We talked for a few minutes. The other day, she slipped a note underneath my door asking me for a drink. Unluckily, I didn't get home until very late so I couldn't go out with her. The next day, I gave her a call and she came out with my friends and I. We had a really good time and I didn't make any moves on her (Cause she is my neighbor).

What do I do next? I like her and want to get to know her better and possibly develop something. Can I ask her out? OR should I just take it slow and become better friends with her?

thanks....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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golf299

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she is single, yes? ask her out. kiss her. the end.
 

skinnydart

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Why are you thinking that just because she's your neighbor, she off limits to you? I think you're getting "neighbor" confused with "sister" or "mother".
 

DJArlington

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Does everyone agree? My friends are telling me to play the "friends" card...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dookie

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Its a golden opportunity... don't let it pass... Hit It! :)

PS: Ask her to get together... personally asking out seems to "formal." Find out if she is worth it and then go from there.
 

golf299

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if you don't think you can ask her out because she 'literally lives down the hall', then forget about her. if you aren't planning on asking her out, why would you even post the question?

either ask her out, see what happens. otherwise, forget about her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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