"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Inevitable Run-In with Ex next week
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Renegade357
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Anyway the whole encounter went pretty well. It was at a party and I just treated her the same as every other girl there. She was def acting weird around me and very quiet. The annoying part is she knew I was going to be at the party which was at my SISTERS house and she came anyway. I have no idea why nor do I care.
If anything I gained respect points with her but for the most part there is no win to be had in this situation. One shot per woman per lifetime.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
Just smile when you see her. Keep it light and no heavy subjects. Period. Do that and you'll come out ahead.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
The only thing you can do is bottom line their actions and react accordingly. That means you have to be tough. It means you have to be willing to tell girls you really like to get lost when they cross the line. When you do things the right way you are dropping 10 out of 10 women, not the other way around. You do this until you find the right one. Most guys can't do that.
Your ex is now your ex for a good reason. Learn from mistakes you made with her but from this point on you give her NOTHING. You treat her like you treat every other girl out there that you don't care about. You act polite but do nothing above the call of duty. We don't care what she thinks and if we do we keep it to ourselves.
Yeah but if he sells her a new phone he can make some commission off her ass.Renegade357 said:One shot per woman per lifetime.
A man has to have priorities.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Consider the most vicious and cruel motives and perspective she could have and that's probably the closest to the truth.
Exactly, there is no doubt she knows she hurt this guy's feelings yet she continues to toy with him. She cares nothing about him, she only cares about herself. This girl like all the other "bad girls" have the emotional maturity level of a child. They all have their day though.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
Or you could just move on and forget her. Which you will be forced to do eventually. I guess you want to feel the pain first though.DJinBlue said:At this point, I want to bring her to her knees and let her off gently. Then I will rest and work on being alpha to start from that point forward.
It doesn't matter how mad you are. Face the fact that you're kind of screwed here because you care more than she does. And the one who cares the least controls the situation.