"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Inevitable Run-In with Ex next week
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Renegade357
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Anyway the whole encounter went pretty well. It was at a party and I just treated her the same as every other girl there. She was def acting weird around me and very quiet. The annoying part is she knew I was going to be at the party which was at my SISTERS house and she came anyway. I have no idea why nor do I care.
If anything I gained respect points with her but for the most part there is no win to be had in this situation. One shot per woman per lifetime.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
Just smile when you see her. Keep it light and no heavy subjects. Period. Do that and you'll come out ahead.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
The only thing you can do is bottom line their actions and react accordingly. That means you have to be tough. It means you have to be willing to tell girls you really like to get lost when they cross the line. When you do things the right way you are dropping 10 out of 10 women, not the other way around. You do this until you find the right one. Most guys can't do that.
Your ex is now your ex for a good reason. Learn from mistakes you made with her but from this point on you give her NOTHING. You treat her like you treat every other girl out there that you don't care about. You act polite but do nothing above the call of duty. We don't care what she thinks and if we do we keep it to ourselves.
Yeah but if he sells her a new phone he can make some commission off her ass.Renegade357 said:One shot per woman per lifetime.
A man has to have priorities.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Consider the most vicious and cruel motives and perspective she could have and that's probably the closest to the truth.
Exactly, there is no doubt she knows she hurt this guy's feelings yet she continues to toy with him. She cares nothing about him, she only cares about herself. This girl like all the other "bad girls" have the emotional maturity level of a child. They all have their day though.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
Or you could just move on and forget her. Which you will be forced to do eventually. I guess you want to feel the pain first though.DJinBlue said:At this point, I want to bring her to her knees and let her off gently. Then I will rest and work on being alpha to start from that point forward.
It doesn't matter how mad you are. Face the fact that you're kind of screwed here because you care more than she does. And the one who cares the least controls the situation.