What are some IOIs that girls give off, when you not talking to the girl, or when youve never talked to the girl before? For example how could you tell a girl is interested if shes sitting or standing away from you?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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sometimes a girl who digs me will make quick glances, other times that same girl will completely ignore me as if i don't exist. there's no exact science for knowing. you just gotta dive in there, spit your game, regardless of any signs of interest.
Daddy The Pimp
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eye contact , sitting next to you always or chasing you ( i mean @ HS ) , smiling with you while eyecontact
these are pretty much IoI's that u get without talking
these are pretty much IoI's that u get without talking
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
when you catch her looking at you/checking you out, she holds eye contact a little longer than "normal" then looks away..when you're talking to her she kinda has this "puppy dog" look on her face while looking up at you.
check this out though, last semester i started hitting on this girl, she was very friendly and talkative, next time i see her she seems very uncomfortable and nervous around me, at the time, i took this as a sign on disinterest, but later i heard from her friend that she thought i was hot and couldn't help but get uneasy around me..girls that are not very confident with themselves, your typical "cute girl" will act this way towards guys they like, so keep that in mind as well.
check this out though, last semester i started hitting on this girl, she was very friendly and talkative, next time i see her she seems very uncomfortable and nervous around me, at the time, i took this as a sign on disinterest, but later i heard from her friend that she thought i was hot and couldn't help but get uneasy around me..girls that are not very confident with themselves, your typical "cute girl" will act this way towards guys they like, so keep that in mind as well.
ready123
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if you're asking this when you haven't met her yet, you're trying to compensate for approach anxiety, which is the wrong way to go. use the 3 second rule, so you open your mouth before you think
getting the courage to talk to the girl is such a small step and once you've gotten past it, it's trivial. most everything you'll need to know about whether the girl is attracted to you is found after you both have opened your mouths
getting the courage to talk to the girl is such a small step and once you've gotten past it, it's trivial. most everything you'll need to know about whether the girl is attracted to you is found after you both have opened your mouths
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proximity/touching
talking/questions
smiling
phone calls
kindness
talking/questions
smiling
phone calls
kindness
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/watchtheeyes.htm
i saw this article on the main site about different types of eye contact..the first one "Vertical Scan" reminded me of those days i would be out and some girl would look at my face then start looking at my shoes..i would think WTF is wrong with my shoes, a lot of girls AND some guys were doing this, but i now know why, and that there are a lot of closet homosexuals out there..ahahah...gotta read that article, good s hit
i saw this article on the main site about different types of eye contact..the first one "Vertical Scan" reminded me of those days i would be out and some girl would look at my face then start looking at my shoes..i would think WTF is wrong with my shoes, a lot of girls AND some guys were doing this, but i now know why, and that there are a lot of closet homosexuals out there..ahahah...gotta read that article, good s hit
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She'll turn her body language towards you
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Daddy The Pimp
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Kindness .. He's exactly right lol ..DonGorgon said:
Most of girls are real b!tches sometimes :box: . But when we put them on the game theyll be really kind
..It is in the way a woman looks at you. It’s not so much about that she scans you or that her eyes dilate as is often mentioned. It is in the way that she looks at you and her eyes are just part of it. It is hard to explain exactly and you’ll just have to figure it out with experience.HandyAndy said:
It is like a woman will look at you and she will be thinking, almost projecting. If you walk into a room full of people and there is a girl that is attracted to you she will look at you differently than the way others look at you and the way she looks at other people. It is like she is trying to communicate with you through her eyes and with her face in a kind of hopeful way. Sometimes it is almost like she is going “oooh, oooh, pick me” on the inside. Depends on the girl, some are very subtle, others can be quite animated.
The more confident you are when you look back at her the more she will express to you. And if you smile and are flirty she will react in kind. If her attraction for you is strong enough and you look back at her with enough confidence, some women will squirm.
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She keeps the conversation going. i.e. no one worded-responses, and if she does, she asks you a question or anything that's on her mind to keep the convo going. She might be smiling also.HandyAndy said:
That's easy...she looks at you. See it from the corner of your eye. If you're sitting and talking to somebody, and she's right there sitting also, she will look at you in the face and pay attention to what you're saying, even if you're not talking directly to her.
tsmith2334
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Really? I always just kind of expected that.smooth guy said:
When I'm out with a girl, like eating at a restaurant, she almost always seems to want to keep the conversation going, give detailed answers, ask questions, etc.
I always just figured it was just them being courteous and not wanting a boring conversation. Is it really a sign of interest?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
tsmith2334
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This kinda got me thinking. Can I get some feedback on this?tsmith2334 said:
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You sound older than me (since you've mentioned a date at a restaurant), so I can't tell based on experience I had with an older girl, because I haven't. I was referring to teen girls since HandyAndy is nearly my age.tsmith2334 said:
What you're saying about them being courteous and not wanting any awkward silences at the date has a point, but I think there's a difference on the body language and the tone of her voice. I mean, you can tell if somebody is having a conversation with you just to avoid any silences or because they WANT TO. If she asks you questions about yourself and seems to be interested in your responses, I'd say that's a sign. If it's a good conversation and not a forced one, that's also a good sign.
But if she's already on a date with you at a restaurant, I think the interest is already there
tsmith2334
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Great response. Hopefully what you're saying is true, it sounds on the money.smooth guy said:You sound older than me (since you've mentioned a date at a restaurant), so I can't tell based on experience I had with an older girl, because I haven't. I was referring to teen girls since HandyAndy is nearly my age.
What you're saying about them being courteous and not wanting any awkward silences at the date has a point, but I think there's a difference on the body language and the tone of her voice. I mean, you can tell if somebody is having a conversation with you just to avoid any silences or because they WANT TO. If she asks you questions about yourself and seems to be interested in your responses, I'd say that's a sign. If it's a good conversation and not a forced one, that's also a good sign.
But if she's already on a date with you at a restaurant, I think the interest is already there
You also come across as very mature and wise for your age. You're right that I'm a little older, early twenties.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.