"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So there is this girl I met through a friend that goes to school with her. Anyways, I think she has some interest in me because I always catch her looking and she responds good to my kino. The only thing is that she is still kindof "talking" to her "ex" or f buddy that now goes to college in another state.

How should I pursue her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You need to proceed as if nothing else is going on. Unless she has a boyfriend she's serious about, you keep doing your thing, and don't let anybody else determine the actions you will take.

She is still "talking" to the ex, or BF because she hasn't found something better. If you bed her and she likes you better, then, and only then will she stop "talking" to him. Women always have somebody in the "bullpen" ready to go. They have a backup, they can't stand the tought of nobody being there. They want their cake and eat it too.
 

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Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
You need to proceed as if nothing else is going on. Unless she has a boyfriend she's serious about, you keep doing your thing, and don't let anybody else determine the actions you will take.

She is still "talking" to the ex, or BF because she hasn't found something better. If you bed her and she likes you better, then, and only then will she stop "talking" to him. Women always have somebody in the "bullpen" ready to go. They have a backup, they can't stand the tought of nobody being there. They want their cake and eat it too.
So just keep dj'ing her until I get some reactions?
 

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No, you keep proceding until you get your desire outcome. We don't wait and react to other people's actions. You go about your thing as if there is nobody else involved. Do you think that this other fellow says to himself, "$hit, I better not bag this broad because Paintballguy really wants to make a move on her, and I want to make sure there is no one in the picture she might be slightly interested in"?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Who cares what she thinks about anything. If she is not commted to anybody, you need to move the seduction along.
 

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Well if she has a f-buddy then by very definition thats all that is... move in as though she is single because she is...
 

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carefull though because some girls will just turn an oppertunity like this and just play you, while keeping their security blanket

"there e/x boyfriend"

around so that after things are said and done with you she can go back to him.

EDIT : Nevermind, different situation her ex actually is in another state.. so move on with the seduction
 

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I think she is obsessed with that guy and he wants nothing to do with her yet she still has some interest in me.

I was flirting with her big time, even going as far as slapping her a$$ and she didnt seem to mind. I dunno, I'll just keep truckin' as they say.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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