"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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golf299

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Is there anyway to increase the probablity of having the girl make the first move...

here's the situation: i know this girl. we see each other often in a professional setting. she just recently aquired an AFC bf. but i can tell that there is the possibility of something there between us...

but im not the type to come right out and go knocking on a girl's door who is already involved. so is there anything i can do to increase the likelihood of her making the first move?

or should i just simply ask her out on a date and see if she accepts and then act accordingly?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I understand that she is in a relationship.

But, don't go tryin to win her over... yet.

Play the C&F part with her, don't touch her.. and dont' see her all that often.

If you put too much preassure (or any preassure actually) right now.. you'll get burned, and you'll have blown your shot with this girl.

Best approach to take to this.. is the relaxed approach. Patience is a virtue.

Take it from someone who has been there before.

The hardest advice though.. is to actively seek to date other women, and don't fall into the oneitis trap.
 

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however you do realize that you're tons better than that AFC guy... and if she is at the end of it all, willing to leave him for you.. beware. she is highly capable of doing that to you one day, when she finds someone else whom she thinks is better than you. play your cards right mate... do what you think is best.
 

golf299

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thanks for the advice guys.
 

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Don't **** in your sandbox.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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golf299

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be patient: check

seek others: check

ask her for drinks: when would this be a safe proposition?
 

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If you are worried about women who leave realtionship for a better man, kinda limits the field a bit doesn't it?

I thought that is preprogrammed in all women's brains.
 

golf299

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im actually not at all worried about that
 
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