"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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golf299

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Is there anyway to increase the probablity of having the girl make the first move...

here's the situation: i know this girl. we see each other often in a professional setting. she just recently aquired an AFC bf. but i can tell that there is the possibility of something there between us...

but im not the type to come right out and go knocking on a girl's door who is already involved. so is there anything i can do to increase the likelihood of her making the first move?

or should i just simply ask her out on a date and see if she accepts and then act accordingly?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I understand that she is in a relationship.

But, don't go tryin to win her over... yet.

Play the C&F part with her, don't touch her.. and dont' see her all that often.

If you put too much preassure (or any preassure actually) right now.. you'll get burned, and you'll have blown your shot with this girl.

Best approach to take to this.. is the relaxed approach. Patience is a virtue.

Take it from someone who has been there before.

The hardest advice though.. is to actively seek to date other women, and don't fall into the oneitis trap.
 

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however you do realize that you're tons better than that AFC guy... and if she is at the end of it all, willing to leave him for you.. beware. she is highly capable of doing that to you one day, when she finds someone else whom she thinks is better than you. play your cards right mate... do what you think is best.
 

golf299

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thanks for the advice guys.
 

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Don't **** in your sandbox.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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golf299

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be patient: check

seek others: check

ask her for drinks: when would this be a safe proposition?
 

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If you are worried about women who leave realtionship for a better man, kinda limits the field a bit doesn't it?

I thought that is preprogrammed in all women's brains.
 

golf299

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im actually not at all worried about that
 
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