"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Including Her Into my Social Circle

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So I went out to a Latin Club last Friday celebrating my bros return from the military. I invited some people I know from grad school, and one of the girls (who is married) I invited brought a Columbian friend. Her Columbian friend and I hit it off pretty good, and eventually we were grinding on the dance floor the whole night. When I left, I got her number. I really think she is into me and I know she is single.

However, I do want to hang out with her again but only socially. It's not like I really want to call her up and go on a date since I would rather spend my energy now in reaching my goals. She is really cool for me to keep in touch with. Is there something wrong in thinking like this? Or I may be overthinking this...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
 

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Warrior74 said:
How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
The answer I was looking for! Can't believe it was starring in front of my face...
 

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Warrior74 said:
How will you feel when some guy from your social circle bangs her? If you wouldn't care...do it, if you would, ask her out on a date.
Do you remember the standard stategy ,"Isolate and escalate" ?
Well you best follow that advice BEFORE you include her into your circle. Unless you do, some other horndog in your circle is going do exactly that with her right in front of you.
 

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jophil28 said:
Do you remember the standard stategy ,"Isolate and escalate" ?
Well you best follow that advice BEFORE you include her into your circle. Unless you do, some other horndog in your circle is going do exactly that with her right in front of you.
Interesting point. I guess you're saying I should mess around with her first. Then this brings me to another question. How do I keep that tie but have her not expect things to go any further (relationship, ect.)? Would it be the type of activities we do, how often I contact her is important, ect.?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do I keep that tie but have her not expect things to go any further (relationship, ect.)? Would it be the type of activities we do, how often I contact her is important, ect.?
Lol. Usually guys come here to find out how to attract women. You haven't even f closed yet, and you're worried about how to keep her at bay. Talk about having the frame.
 

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zekko said:
Lol. Usually guys come here to find out how to attract women. You haven't even f closed yet, and you're worried about how to keep her at bay. Talk about having the frame.
I guess I'm looking too much further along. But I think I see where you're coming from. Maybe this is the type of AFC thinking I should avoid?
 
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